To have shouted at my DH?

[Whoopiepie]

And actually think he's bloody stupid? I'm pretty sure I'm not...

He's making a rice crispie treats house with the DC (instead of a gingerbread house, one of the DC doesn't like gingerbread and I saw the kit in the supermarket). I've just popped into the kitchen and found him using a saucepan on the hob with my two year old stood on a chair right in front of it, within arms reach. I panicked a bit (a lot, I have a huge scar on my leg from a childhood burn) and shouted at him to move her away. Her hand went dangerously near the burner twice in the time it took him to argue with me that she was fine FFS!!!

He won't admit he's wrong and says its fine as 'he was watching her'. I have apologised for the actual shouting, but he still doesn't think he's done anything stupid/wrong.

Her hand went dangerously near the burner twice in the time it took him to argue with me that she was fine FFS!!!

YABU to stand there and argue with him over it. Perhaps instead of having a go at him, you could be happy that he is trying to share an experience with your DC and simply stay out there and help an eye on things.

The distraction of your shouting is more likely to cause him to look away and allow her time to be injured than anything else tbh.

I'd have been furious. DS does a lot with me in the kitchen, but a hot hob in reach of a 2 year old is just asking for trouble. They have very limited impulse control and can move faster than you can react. Pointless risk.

Ah, yes triggle, that wonderful experience of a child's first trip to A&E. Magical.

Complex, you questioned my bit about 'his child, his choice' and I elaborated with an example. What's so hard to understand??

vetch, I found it hard to see how your example bore any relationship to the OP's issue.

Seriously, in what way does it relate?

However, I feel we are digressing from the OP and her questions.

So feel free to have the last word.

It wasnt meant to relate exactly with the op, it was an example. here this might clear things up.

yanbu

I have let my kids do this (3yo and 18mo!), but reading those burn stories above will change the policy from now on. Also think when you see your kid in a dangerous situation that you wouldn't put them in quite understandable to have a first impulse of shouting - takes a lot of practice to deal with things in a calmer manner when it is your baby in danger. I have shrieked at DP several times in the past for letting them stand on tall things, walk down concrete steps unwatched etc.