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To want to see my partner on Christmas day ??

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nosnowagain · 24/12/2013 10:00

Me & 'D'P don't live together , I have one Ds .

I have been asking him to come round for a few hours Christmas morning which is not unreasonable as he has been working all week so not seen him .
He kept saying it depends what his mum is doing, he is 30 and does not live at home .

I just had a text from him saying that his Grandad has been given 24 hours to live , he was fine yesterday so I'm struggling to believe him as it just seems like he has his excuse not to come round as his mum wants him to herself because they are having a family Christmas etc Xmas Hmm

We have been together 2 years .

Its not like his mum lives miles away from me as its only a 20 minute walk .
Apparently im a bitch , tbh i havent a clue

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Mellowandfruitful · 25/12/2013 01:08

It's a lie, and what's more it's s foolish lie because it will be easy to catch him out. His granddad will quite probably make a miraculous recovery or will unexpectedly last for much longer than anticipated, but you will be able to ask questions I the meantime to find out whether all this was really going on on Christmas Eve. However, I wouldn't bother as he has already shown you where his loyalties are. Resolve to move on and be feeling a lot better without him by next Christmas.

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nosnowagain · 25/12/2013 01:09

Pic He hasn't got another girlfriend etc his mum is just a bit pfb with him & doesnt really like to share him iyswim

writer I never even considered going to his parents for Christmas as I'm doing Christmas Dinner for my family which he said he could not come to as he had to be at his mums for it so I just asked for him to come round in the morning

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nosnowagain · 25/12/2013 01:11

I've been a coward and sent him a lovely text to wake up to in the morning I honestly hope it ruins his Christmas Thanks everyone

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ComposHat · 25/12/2013 01:27

I would have held my fire until you knew for sure the Granddad thing is a lie.

Because if I was having to deal with the prospect of losing a close relative on Christmas day whilst a girlfriend was making demands that I dance attendance on her, whilst my family were trying to cope with the emotional fall out, she'd be my ex-girlfriend by boxing day.

Actually I suspect he's lying, but I doesn't think it matters really. Either way I get the impression that the relationship is over and one of you will come off looking really callous when the truth comes out.

LittlePeaPod · 25/12/2013 03:19

I just had a text from him saying that his Grandad has been given 24 hours to live , he was fine yesterday so I'm struggling to believe him as it just seems like he has his excuse not to come round

This says a lot about your relationship. Whichever way you look at it this is not a healthy relationship:

  1. his lying. If that's the case why on earth would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone that can concoct this sort of lie. Regardless of whether or not he thinks this is a little "white lie". If he can lie about something like this he can lie about anything and probably does all the time. Also why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that lies white lie or not anyway?
  2. his not lying and you don't trust him because you are so used to him lying all the time. No trust = no relationship IMHO. Also do you really want to live with a lier and have them help you raise your DC? I certainly wouldn't.

Anyway I could bang on but seriously Op why are you in relationship with a grown adult that can make or you suspect can make something like this up?

HappyCliffmas · 25/12/2013 08:01

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nosnowagain · 25/12/2013 10:44

He was/Is lying as his sister didn't have a clue what I were on about

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Topaz25 · 25/12/2013 10:52

LTB. Who lies about something like that?!

QuintessentialShadows · 25/12/2013 10:57

dump

SweetSeraphim · 25/12/2013 13:40

Have you heard back from him today?

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nosnowagain · 25/12/2013 16:26

No as I blocked his number once I had sent my txt

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SweetSeraphim · 25/12/2013 16:37

What did you say? Well done, by the way!

ilovesooty · 25/12/2013 16:41

Sounds as though you'll be well shot of him.

Dillydollydaydream · 25/12/2013 17:45

How awful using a poorly grandad as an excuse. He should be really ashamed!

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nosnowagain · 25/12/2013 18:46

I told him how pathetic he is and a few other choice words Xmas Grin

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GimmeDaBoobehz · 25/12/2013 18:52

This is the exact reason I broke up with my first boyfriend when I was 16 - because he told me his Granddad had died so he could go out and get drunk.

I even phoned up his Dad who hated me for some reason (X must've said something horrid about me) but he hadn't died and his Dad wasn't surprised that he had lied, either. So I phoned him back up and dumped him on the phone and hung up.

Ironically, I ended up comforting the idiot 2 years later when his Granddad actually did die.

What a twat.

Don't be suckered into these games these people play.

SweetSeraphim · 25/12/2013 22:32

Bloody good on you Grin

So glad you decided to get rid. What an utter cockwomble.

someonegetmeaglassofwine · 25/12/2013 22:59

LTB - he's got another woman.

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nosnowagain · 26/12/2013 01:05

some he really doesn't he is a mummies boy and its just very weird

Any who thanks everyone , glad I trusted my instincts

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