to be annoyed at DH over wrapping paper?!

[principalitygirl]

I bought a selection of wrapping paper for Christmas. Some snowman / Santa kid's stuff and others with my grown up designs. He's now gone and wrapped nice bottles of wine for relatives in kid's paper and all we have left for my toddler's pressies is green and gold Christmas bauble paper after I specifically asked him to do vice versa.
He thinks IABU and sweating the small stuff as 'Christmas wrapping paper is Christmas wrapping paper...?!'
He has previous.. A couple of years ago he gave his adult brother a glittery butterfly bday card from the generic greetings card stash I keep at home and couldn't understand why I found this strange!
Grrrrr!

Does it really matter? Hope you havent complained to him as his own standards dont have to match yours.

DH wraps my gifts and i do the rest as use different papers and love wrapping. If i was ill, i'd just leave him to it. He doesnt need me to micro manage wrapping presents.

Men cant win on MN, dont hellp and they are lazy and help and they are doing it wrong.

lol - mynameiskenadams!

jumpingjacksprat - I'm not sure that AIBU is the correct place for truly serious issues anyway? Surely most people posting here know that they're probably being a bit unreasonable but are more gauging who else agrees with them and looking for reinforcement? Being unreasonable is surprisingly common and by
definition is subjective! I'm not sure whose knickers are in more of a twist now - mine or yours!

None of it is expensive wrapping paper btw - I don't care THAT much.

DH and I have agreed that next year he'll wrap pressies for male recipients and kids and I'll do those for females. That fits with his theory that men (generally) and kids aren't bothered by such things but women probably care more.

happymummyofone and others - I DO appreciate him wrapping anything at all but then again, why shouldn't he? We both agree all chores should be shared - this is no exception.

This reminds me of the hell that was the run-up to Christmas when I was growing up.

My mum used to buy beautiful and expensive boxed cards. My dad had lovely handwriting so she'd select the cards and he'd write them. They had loads of friends so this would take hours over 2 or 3 nights and would dominate everything.

She'd hand them over and say: 'That's for Margaret and John' but sometimes, usually when he'd just written 'Dear Marg...' she'd shout: 'No, no, no! What are you doing? I said I wanted that one for Iris and Tom.'

He'd protest that she hadn't said that, but what did it matter anyway, and we'd sometimes back him up and then she'd sulk and say Christmas was ruined and she'd never have said that because: 'everyone knows Margaret and John don't like coaching scenes.'

She'd then grumble about the waste.

He'd try to head her off by asking several times before putting pen to paper: 'Now, this really is for Margaret and John, isn't it?' but every year she'd catch him out.

She loved him in her own little way...

I totally understand. I am obsessed with things like that. But I am odd
I make my own cards too, so am a bit of a perfectionist with this sort of stuff. I even embossed the envelopes so they looked really posh this year... yeah I am odd, aren't I?

YANBU

I'd go mental if my dh did this.

I get very fussy over xmas wrapping paper. And anyone who ruins my wrapping plans....

It's not the fact that I would be worried about giving the wrong paper to the wrong person it's the fact that it wouldn't look right when they were all lying underneath the tree.

OP

I do see where you are coming from but I would let it go tbh.

All we have this year is paper adorned with Santa - left from last year but there's loads so I need to use it first. So everyone's got Santa on their pressies. I long long ago decided not to bother about fancy paper and bows.

There is just too much to do in Dec anyway.

My knickers are definitely not twisted. I'm just incredulous that anyone gives so much of a fuck about wrapping paper that they would bother to turn the computer on and post on an Internet forum because someone wrapped something in the wrong paper. If it was a funny AIBU then fair enough but its not! You just sound a bit ridiculous for caring about it that much.

YABU

Your toddler wont care neither will the relatives.

Sharing chores is OK provided he doesn't have to do it your way. Thats not sharing chores... thats having staff!

Oh this would drive me round the bend. Adult wrapping paper and child wrapping paper are VERY DIFFERENT and it isn't difficult to tell the difference!

Some people obviously just dont care! Attention to detail matters to me.

Then do it yourself if it matters to you.

Don't make other people do it.

Even though my mum bought expensive cards, she thought gift tags were a waste of money.

So the correct paper was very important.

She'd never write someone's name in biro on the paper. That would have been common.

I don't know what the wrapping paper looks like. DH has bought it and wrapped the presents. I think they are all the same except for a bit of leftover stuff from last year. He is so good at wrapping I have nothing whatever to do with it.

I think I shall go down AIBU today and post

YABU

on every thread.

I should really hide the topic, but I might miss a bunfight

I understand OP.

But unless he has committed the heinous crime of cutting the Christmas cake, which I spent 3 hours making yesterday, while I'm still at work (and hungry because I thought we were finishing at lunchtime and I haven't brought any food with me) and then texting me a photo of it, I would still swap him for my DH right now.

My kids always get special 'santa' paper. Any other paper i buy is fair game for anyone to use.

jumpingjacksprat - I'm on my phone. mumsnet's always on! Use of expletives suggests knickers in twist. Trivial and amusing are v different things.

Tbh I think the wrapping paper issue is simply the straw that broke camel's back as am hacked off about having to traipse across country tomorrow in torrential rain with toddler and all their trappings in tow. We've always been the ones to travel at Christmas, since approx 1996. Now we have a child it's more of q hassle. Next year we're staying home and will wrap everything in brown paper I think!

kewcumber - he insists on helping I'm afraid!

Oh my goodness I can't believe some of the "YABU"'s. clearly the OP isn't really reconsidering the future of her marriage as a result of the misuse of snowman wrapping paper.

If anyone is really being unreasonable....

In sane people's land, it really really doesn't matter. The presents are wrapped. All is well. Have a sherry.

However, in Christmas world where the normal rules of reasonableness do not apply, your DH has committed a cardinal sin and you should LTB but only after making him unwrap and re-wrap all the gifts in the correct paper.

Yabu!My kids love "serious" paper....as long as its a bit shiny or bright they are happy.

I realised this morning that I didn't have ANY wrapping paper so have wrapped families presents in plain brown wrapping paper that I bought from pound shop,stuck a gift tag on them and they actually look lovely so will be doing that from now on!

I had to use newspaper and the pages of glossy magazines once haveyourselfashandy.

It looked pretty good and everyone thought it was deliberate - a lurid News of the World splash for BIL and a glamorous Louis Vuitton ad for SIL.

And DH, who's great at wrapping presents, often does brown paper tied with that thick, rough string with homemade gift tags on creamy paper which is scrap from his business notepaper he's carefully singed the edges of so it's black with a sepia tinge.

He is somewhat style-obsessed

Everything in our house is wrapped in random paper and written on in biro whether it's for kids or relatives. Santa presents and family presents in same paper or not! Will tell kids Santa borrowed a bit of our paper if they say anything. Presents themselves are thoughtful and nice though.

However, if your partner has bought adult paper and child paper, you should probably go along with their system.