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aibu in not wanting dh to wear my dressing gown?

30 replies

hannibalismisunderstood · 21/12/2013 15:14

I dont have much just for me, if I leave anything downstairs the teens help themselves even if I have hidden it (eg a rare choccie treat etc), if I leave nice toiletries in the bathroom they get used by everyone else etc

Lasy year I used a voucher I had to buy a nice soft velvety dressing gown (it was still only £15 but it feels lovely and has small sequins down one bit, lovely plum colour. Dh has a similiar feeling one but black and manly...

He just came down in mine (is on nights) so I said why are you wearing my gown? Please take it off. He said he realised ir wasnt his when he put ut on but couldn't be bothered to change it. He was planning On gettibg food)drink etc and then going back to bed.

I really hate that he thought it was okay to wear mine, get it grotty with man sweat, farts and food and went to get his to swap it over but he stormed off saying I had turned his Good mood into a bad one, I just said I was fed up with not having anything that was just mine and I didnt want to share it! Aibu?

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hannibalismisunderstood · 21/12/2013 15:15

Sorry for spelling mistakes... Am on phone!

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 21/12/2013 15:16

YANBU but it's something to laugh off, he's not dirty presumably.

I often came in to see DP lied on the sofa in my lovely pink one.

I bought him his own as part of his christmas presents :D

MrsChristmasBungle · 21/12/2013 15:18

My dh wears mine all the time. I can't say it bothers me.

takingthathometomomma · 21/12/2013 15:18

My DP does this, so annoying! YANBU but like DoYouLike said! it's something to have a moan and a laugh about

DoItTooBabyJesus · 21/12/2013 15:20

You DH needs to sort himself out! If you don't want him wearing your things, he's got to respect that!

I'd fill his underwear drawer with frilly pink knickers and hide all of his man pants.

See if he likes wearing your stuff then! (I bet he's glad he's not married to me!)

DaddyPigsMistress · 21/12/2013 15:21

Dp wears my tight silk kimono gown that just about covers his bum. Its grim if he stretches up or bends over when hes fresh out the shower.

Fairylea · 21/12/2013 15:24

Yanbu. But then I don't even like anyone on my pillows or whatever. I just like my things for me!!

BohemianGirl · 21/12/2013 15:37

Probably a bit of an over reaction BUT if you've been caught in a mood then something like that will tip you over the edge.

CoffeeTea103 · 21/12/2013 16:39

Yabu, petty and need to grow up.

sunbathe · 21/12/2013 19:10

YANBU.

Bumpandkind · 21/12/2013 19:18

What is it about men and soft, pink robes! My DH is often sporting mine to go out and smoke Grrr. Bring up him wearing it in. Front of friends and see if it embarrasses him. Xmas Grin

ZingChoirsOfAngels · 21/12/2013 19:22

YABU for not taking a photo! Grin

stubbs0412 · 21/12/2013 19:25

If that's all he does that annoys you must be a lucky lady.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/12/2013 19:26

I wouldn't like it, OP - YANBU!!

MimsyBorogroves · 21/12/2013 19:27

I always nick DH's clothes for wearing to lounge around the house.

Rhubarbgarden · 21/12/2013 19:30

Yanbu. That would piss me right off.

nomorecrumbs · 21/12/2013 19:40

That would annoy me, if dressing gowns are to you like towels are to me. I couldn't bear the thought of DH putting his pubes etc. on my lovely towels, so we have separate ones and he knows that mine are sacred.

bumbumsmummy · 21/12/2013 19:40

Yanbu to expect something for yourself I think the problem lies in the lack of respect and appreciation that your family show you

This isn't about a dressing gown however I would put his on to take out the rubbish and clean up the dog shit GrinGrin

StrawberryMojito · 21/12/2013 19:43

LTB

AnUnearthlyChild · 21/12/2013 19:46

What bum bum said

It's isn't about a dressing gown is it? It is about respect.

Writerwannabe83 · 21/12/2013 20:15

Me and DH are always wearing each other's dressing gowns. Don't see what the problem is??

teacherandguideleader · 21/12/2013 20:37

Sharing towels and dressing gowns doesn't bother me - I always figure if I shouldn't be intimate with someone I wouldn't share a towel /dressing gown with. My DP does do a couple of minor things that annoy me but I know I'm very lucky if that is the worst I can say about him. If this is the only thing he does to irritate you I think you just need to suck it up.

Topaz25 · 22/12/2013 01:46

I steal DH's dressing gown if I can't find mine. I do prefer mine, it's a lot like yours whereas his is just plain but I'm disorganised. I don't think it's a big deal but it bothers him a bit. It sounds like your husband just wanted to relax and your reaction upset him. The real issue is that you feel disrespected by your family so discuss it with your DH when you are both calm.

BillyBanter · 22/12/2013 02:24

I'm stunned. I was expecting a long list of yabus. He wasn't doing it to annoy you. He wasn't depriving you of it. He's your husband not the plumber.

BitOfFunWithSanta · 22/12/2013 04:37

I've read this thread before. Weird. Déjà vu.