aibu in not wanting dh to wear my dressing gown?

[hannibalismisunderstood]

I dont have much just for me, if I leave anything downstairs the teens help themselves even if I have hidden it (eg a rare choccie treat etc), if I leave nice toiletries in the bathroom they get used by everyone else etc

Lasy year I used a voucher I had to buy a nice soft velvety dressing gown (it was still only £15 but it feels lovely and has small sequins down one bit, lovely plum colour. Dh has a similiar feeling one but black and manly...

He just came down in mine (is on nights) so I said why are you wearing my gown? Please take it off. He said he realised ir wasnt his when he put ut on but couldn't be bothered to change it. He was planning On gettibg food)drink etc and then going back to bed.

I really hate that he thought it was okay to wear mine, get it grotty with man sweat, farts and food and went to get his to swap it over but he stormed off saying I had turned his Good mood into a bad one, I just said I was fed up with not having anything that was just mine and I didnt want to share it! Aibu?

First world problem! Lol!

It's not about the dressing gown, is it?

Are there ever any times you feel valued?

I agree with Farahilda this isn't about the dressing gown at all.

You overreacted for sure... until you add in the part about you having nothing that is just yours. It explains that it was just another in a long line of times you've felt like you have nothing, are nothing. Sounds like you feel lost as an individual and feel like you're just the wife/mother/cook/cleaner and disrespected as an individual.

I think you need to start doing things just for yourself. Go out once in a while to pamper yourself of just be by yourself. Join a book club or other group to have your own interests. I also suggest some couples counseling as well as a conversation with your kids about how just because something is in the house doesn't make it theirs and doesn't mean they can use it/eat it/drink it. Sounds like everyone needs a lesson in respect for others and their things.

Thank you for all the replies, just come back to this after posting about my dhs efforts at Xmas present buying and you are right - it is the lack of respect and I can see it clearly now....

The hard thing is to change it and it does need to change....

OP I hope you are starting with self-respect. If you have that, no-one can put you down