Ok so on going dispute with my Ex Husband. Our 3 (10, 8 and 6) children go on over night contact once a week. They have 2 half siblings and 3 step brothers. My children have said that they don't feel welcome and don't feel comfortable in the house i.e having to sleep on the floor, no personal belongings their despite ex having lived and contact being in this house for over a year.
I raised this issue and said they really don't feel at home on contact for the reasons above. This was the reply:
"We have always strived for DD1, DS1 and DS2 to feel welcome and comfortable here but so we are clear this is not their home and it would be incorrect for them to consider or to be told it is. They spend less than twenty percent of their entire week here, their home is where they live and that is with you. This is their Fathers and their extended families home and they are welcome here. Visitor is not a dirty word and it is factually correct to say that the children visit with us, neither is it dismissive of their place within our family,they are very much part of this household and our lives in all ways when they are with us."
AIBU to think this is a) to complex and subtle distinction to expect a 10, 8 and 6 year old to understand? and b) dismissive of my children (amongst other things!)