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Am I being a twat or is dh?

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:35

Bear with me. Xmas Grin

We have a spare room. It is kept locked. There are currently dc's Christmas presents hidden in there. The key is kept on top of the door frame. The frame stands slightly proud of the wall and the key can fall behind the frame, to sit on a ledge, but is easily flicked out again.

(I'm getting there.) I put the key back on the other end of the doorframe to where dh usually puts it. I see no difference. Except dh has gone looking for it, run his hand along to find it and obviously knocked it right down the side of the doorframe. Where it definitely cannot be retrieved without removing the side of the doorframe. Which he will do at some point because it shouldn't really be like it is.

Are you still with me? Oh thank you. Dh has gone apeshit at me because the key has vanished. He says he didn't knock it down. I say he must have done. Apparently it is all my fault for not putting it back in exactly the same place. I think he must take some of the blame.

I realise, in the grand scheme of things, that it doesn't really matter and no one would otherwise give a shiny shit. However he has had a massive go at me over it and I am not happy. I accept I moved it but he must have knocked it down and I am not prepared to be shouted at for it. We do have the spare key.

Which he wouldn't let me have. In case I somehow lose that one. I now can't get in to the spare room. Where all the presents are.

Has anybody made it this far? Is he being a knob or am I? I think my marriage depends on it tonight! Xmas Confused

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ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow · 19/12/2013 23:36

LTB

Always wanted to say that Xmas Grin

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:37

Considering it... [fgrin{

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soupmaker · 19/12/2013 23:37

You both are. There is a spare key. No shouting required.

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:37

Fuck it, Xmas Grin fail

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ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow · 19/12/2013 23:38

He is being a knob anyway, but I'd tell him he's now responsible for wrapping etc since he has the key. Bet he gives it to you Xmas Grin

Lottiedoubtie · 19/12/2013 23:38

Depends.

Did he get frustrated and a bit narky.

Or did he shout, rant and call you names?

Is this a pattern? What is he like when not pissed off?

phantomnamechanger · 19/12/2013 23:38

you have a spare?? what on earth's the problem then!

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:38

We are aren't we. God he's a stubborn bastard.

He keeps moaning at me about the cost of Christmas as well. Think this has tipped him over. Xmas Hmm

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justmuddlingalong · 19/12/2013 23:39

He won't let you have the spare key? In that case, he's the knob!

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:40

That's what I thought! He really wouldn't let me have it. I was more flabbergasted at that than the random fury.

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Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:41

Lottie he was definitely frustrated and narky. Taking the pods with not giving me the key though.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:41

Oh ffs. Piss not pods, bloody autocorrect.

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WooWooOwl · 19/12/2013 23:41

He's being a knob for withholding the spare key from you as if you were a child.

Something like that has potential to cause a minor row if it happened on the wrong day in this house, but him deciding you aren't allowed the spare key is way over the line.

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:43

Thank you just and woowoo. Would you mind coming round here and telling him?

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LuckyLuckyMe · 19/12/2013 23:44

I'm with ILive. If he wants the key let him have the responsibility that goes with it.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 19/12/2013 23:45

"Suit yourself sweetheart. Hope the wrapping doesn't take you all evening.".

Pour yourself a glass of wine. Put feet up.

MmeCinqAnneauxDor · 19/12/2013 23:45

You were unreasonable in moving the key.

Wasn't his fault for the key falling down cause he didn't know the key was there.

He is now being an arse and should hand over the key.

Were you ranting at him as much as he was ranting at you?

Original poster
Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:46

Well I was a bit. At the injustice of it all!!!

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MmeCinqAnneauxDor · 19/12/2013 23:48

You should both LTB then.

Actually, agree that if he doesn't hand over the key, he gets to wrap the presents.

Or you could open a bottle of wine, lock yourselves in the spare room, wrap the presents and have wild monkey make-up sex.

justmuddlingalong · 19/12/2013 23:49

Tell him to stick the key up his @rse and leave him to it! Don't argue with him, then you'll have the moral high ground.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 19/12/2013 23:52

I like both MmeCing and just's advice. Xmas Grin

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zoobaby · 19/12/2013 23:56

YWU putting the key back incorrectly. He WBU with his over-reaction.

If you can both get over it by tomorrow then call it a draw.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 20/12/2013 00:03

I can. Don't think he will!

Will have to catch up with this tomorrow. Am getting huffy sighs cos I'm MNetting in bed and the tiny dim phone light is burning through his eyelids.

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Defnotsupergirl · 20/12/2013 01:12

I'd go and find a crowbar and remove the offending doorframe, but that's just me...........(over-reacting........me, never..........) Xmas Wink

holidaysarenice · 20/12/2013 01:29

Personally I'd lock the bedroom door and leave him to the spare room!

Or I'd unscrew the door/handle and leave it like that. Then tell everyone who comes in that you had to do it because he's a knob.

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