Am I being a twat or is dh?

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

Bear with me.

We have a spare room. It is kept locked. There are currently dc's Christmas presents hidden in there. The key is kept on top of the door frame. The frame stands slightly proud of the wall and the key can fall behind the frame, to sit on a ledge, but is easily flicked out again.

(I'm getting there.) I put the key back on the other end of the doorframe to where dh usually puts it. I see no difference. Except dh has gone looking for it, run his hand along to find it and obviously knocked it right down the side of the doorframe. Where it definitely cannot be retrieved without removing the side of the doorframe. Which he will do at some point because it shouldn't really be like it is.

Are you still with me? Oh thank you. Dh has gone apeshit at me because the key has vanished. He says he didn't knock it down. I say he must have done. Apparently it is all my fault for not putting it back in exactly the same place. I think he must take some of the blame.

I realise, in the grand scheme of things, that it doesn't really matter and no one would otherwise give a shiny shit. However he has had a massive go at me over it and I am not happy. I accept I moved it but he must have knocked it down and I am not prepared to be shouted at for it. We do have the spare key.

Which he wouldn't let me have. In case I somehow lose that one. I now can't get in to the spare room. Where all the presents are.

Has anybody made it this far? Is he being a knob or am I? I think my marriage depends on it tonight!

I don't really understand why other posters are saying that YOU are BU for putting the key in a different spot to him, when HE'S putting it in a different spot to YOU. If he knows where you put it then there shouldn't have been a problem... silly man.

There is also spare, so go get another spare cut and he can calm down because now there's two again.

Sounds like he was having a bit of a day and took it out on you.

Would a decent magnet allow you to get the key out? Just a thought, then you'd have your own key and he wouldn't have to know...

This will turn into another "locked garage" story if you are not careful. You need to wait until he is asleep, put on your catsuit, suspend yourself from the ceiling and remove it from his pyjama pocket (which I'm sure he doesn't wear, but looks better for the scenario).
When you get to the room and unlock the door, you must tell us what secrets he has been up to in there...

I'd flip if I was denied access to a room in my own home,smacks of controlling behaviour and treating you like a child.

He knows you want in their so stop caring put any other presents somewhere else and let him know he can wrap whatever is in the spare room.
Drink wine everything is just Rosie.

realised my advice is different to what I'd do

In there* for grammar patrol.

Tell him to wrap the presents himself whilst you open the wine and put on some Christmas music to sing loudly to.

Although I think it would probably be easier just to get another key cut rather than rip the door frame off.

Get copy made from spare key, spare key becomes main key, key copy becomes spare key. You become sane again and he becomes less of a twat. Done.

And maybe put in a nail which the key hangs off.

There's a spare key and the main key is not lost (as in you know where it is) so there is no problem.
You should have put the key back on the normal

...place though! To save your DH being an arse.

I'm actually lightly disappointed that there is a spare key - I wanted to invent something involving a wire coathanger to fish out the key and save Christmas.

You are all most welcome to come over and fish out the offending bloody key. There will probably be mulled wine and mince pies. If anyone feels so inclined they can also call my dh a twat. I don't mind.

I'll call your dh a twat for a mince pie. Only if its home made though, shop ones are the work of the devil.
Holding back the key makes your dh v unreasonable, it was an accident, shit happens. Certainly not worth a rant. Tell him to knock back some eggnog and pull his pants out of his arse.

Oh your DH is being a total arse. I would not be happy about being locked out of my own spare room.

The whole key/ledge /doorframe shenanigans seem like a total PITA though. Surely a better solution would be to a) get a spare cut and keep it on your keyring ; b) hang the key on a hook at adult height ; and c) hand over all responsibility for presents to your husband.

LaQueen

I feel your pain.

Apparently the key was meant to hang on a hook in the cupboard along the landing. Only he never got round to it. I didn't know it was there or I'd have put it up.

I've also just been ranted at by the mad lady down the road so I'm not in the best mood now.

Put a hook on the frame and hang the key. Then it's easy.

He's being an arse withholding the spare from you. Withhold the mince pies. See if he likes that

Thankyou waiting I spent the entire time reading this thread frustrated and impatient to be able to tell you to bang a nail in the frame, copy spare key, hang new key from frame, put spare key away safely.

Don't argue just do this in a calm, practical manner whole giving off waves of sighing and unspoken patronising smugness.

Then I realised I have become my Dad and DH should LTB :(

I'd go septic if my DP did this!
I would then prise the door frame off to retrieve the key and leave DP to deal with the resulting mess!

Xpost with lots of nice practical hook suggestions

I am not fussy about the homemade-ness of said mincemeat pies. Will be round shortly to call your DH a twat.

My DH does the loud sighing when I MN in bed. What is that about?

Can you put a sock over the nozzle of your vaccuum cleaner and suck the key out?

Then use blu tak to stick the key to the top of the door frame in future?

I think maybe you are both being a bit unreasonable, but tempers are short at this time of year.

Oooooo.

I'll come around and sing "Silent Night, Holy Night, you are a twat" whilst wearing a santa hat at your DH for a mince-pie.

YY to the suggestions of a small hook. Either screwed into the wall or up his arse.

limited

Don't tempt me.