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Original poster

So it turns out, I WAS being unreasonable. The man flu was something worse!

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OHforDUCKSchristmasCake · 19/12/2013 19:08

My ex was getting right on my boobs with dramatic sighing, forehead feeling, gland clutching (his neck) and so, so much more but I cant say because it turns out I was wrong.

I said it was a virus stop being a wuss!!

He had a blood test, turns out his liver isnt functioning properly. Thats all I know, thats the words he used so not sure what to take from it. He has more blood tests on Monday and a scan soon.

Obviously, despite him being an ex Im worried about him. I have no idea what causes this, he is T-total!! Drinks about one beer a year, if that in fact.

And a very, very selfish part of me (I KNOW its selfish, thats why Im getting it out here so I dont in RL) is wondering how Im going to deal with the drama (assuming it doesnt turn out to be something serious - fingers firmly crossed!). Since he had the results he seems to have got significantly worse, the second he had ghe phone call 'I am very weak' etc etc Im gritting my teeth, I promised him Id be supportive and understanding but I dread him milking this. Of course, again assuming it doesnt turn out to be something serious. Confused

OP posts:
AlpacaPicnic · 19/12/2013 20:42

Sorry, forgot to add - hope he feels better soon! Good luck Mr Duck...

Original poster
OHforDUCKSchristmasCake · 19/12/2013 20:45

Thanks Aplaca Im glad Im not the only one.

exMrDuck

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AlpacaPicnic · 19/12/2013 20:59

Oops! Double sorry! goes off to find reading glasses

Igloofornow · 19/12/2013 21:18

I've had raised LF after antibiotics - does the GP know about them?

The jaundice isn't a great sign but it wouldn't get better if something was blocking the bile duct. Any abdominal pains?

Original poster
OHforDUCKSchristmasCake · 19/12/2013 21:19

No pains at all.

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lisad123everybodydancenow · 19/12/2013 21:30

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somersethouse · 19/12/2013 21:39

Glandular fever I would say. I had it a couple of years ago and was like your DP.

My DH has Hep C, does not present like this. Also had it for 25 years and had the treatment, and it didn't work LadyBeagle He is fit as a fiddle though! Hope you are well.

AlaskaNebraska · 19/12/2013 21:49

I had gf with no sore throat. Just yellow with puffy eyes. Sweats at night.
I was 37

Original poster
OHforDUCKSchristmasCake · 19/12/2013 21:51

He is 43 and (I know, selfishly again) we have two boys one with loads if health issues I would absolutely shit my pants if he had gf.

He doesnt have the extreme tiredness that Ive been told comes with gf??

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AlaskaNebraska · 19/12/2013 22:47

I didn't. I was in bed for a week once diagnosed. Then back to work. Had soldiered on for ages

Oubliette0292 · 19/12/2013 22:58

Is he overweight at all? Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD) is increasingly becoming a problem as levels of obesity rise. It can progress in much the same way as alcoholic liver disease (steatosis -> steatohepatitis -> fibrosis -> cirrhosis). See here: www.nhs.uk/Conditions/fatty-liver-disease/Pages/Introduction.aspx#stages

EBearhug · 19/12/2013 23:11

There's a ton of things it could be, and no one here can tell you. He's already getting tested.

You are stupid to give him medicine that hasn't been prescribed for him. If it was glandular fever, giving him amoxicillin could cause a reaction - it was reacting to amoxicillin that caused them to test me for gf, which turned out to positive (main symptom, hence prescription, had been earache.)

Just because he's usually fine with a drug, doesn't mean he always will be - you don't know what's wrong with him, and certain conditions will be contraindicated for certain things. You are risking his health by giving him medicine which hasn't been prescribed for him. (Plus it may technically be illegal.)

Ghostsdonttalk · 20/12/2013 04:56

OP given what you say about liver function tests and Tattoo's it could well be Hep A. In which case he will be miserable for a while but OK.

Be very careful about giving prescription medicines to other people, if he had a serious adverse reaction you could find yourself charged with supplying a drug without proper authority. It would be unusual for this to happen but most drugs are eliminated by the liver so he could have come to serious harm or even died and you would have been in trouble.

Baazinga · 20/12/2013 05:05

Our DD had blood results with a red flag over the liver function as well as a few other issues. After 5 months of blood tests and hospital visits we have been given a diagnosis of aneamia and possibly a hidden urine infection. She has been on iron supplements and is significantly less yellow than she was!

BeaWheesht · 20/12/2013 05:09

It could easily be GF or a related illness. Lots of people have GF and don't even realise.

Now, on the medicine front, you shouldn't have given him the amoxycillin for the reasons mentioned but also you shouldn't have had any left over in the first place. People not finishing courses of antibiotics is what leads to antibiotic resistance and you must not have finished yours and not could he have had a full course.

GiraffesAndButterflies · 20/12/2013 05:09

Sorry OP but yab far more u for misusing antibiotics than for thinking your DH had manflu!

Should you have had antibiotics left over in the first place or were you supposed to finish them? This along with sharing antibiotics is one of the things that helps bugs become resistant.

Sorry to jump on you for this but it really is important... Xmas Hmm

mathanxiety · 20/12/2013 05:43

Joining the antibiotic finger wagging here. Doesn't matter what you think the effect was.

Lilacroses · 20/12/2013 06:57

I had a funny liver test result when I had glandular fever. It lasted some 7 weeks and was vile.

Allegrogirl · 20/12/2013 07:26

My dad has had dodgy live results and the gall stones were spotted on a liver MRI. His gall bladder symptoms were atypical and it's taken ages to gets diagnosis.

I took my dh to out of hours doc on Tuesday as he had severe abdo pain. I thought it was irritable bowel syndrome and thought he should man up. Gangrenous appendix removed on weds. To be fair a&e diagnosed IBS about 13 month. And he has been suffering ever since.

Original poster
OHforDUCKSchristmasCake · 20/12/2013 08:32

Thanks for your input all.

For those whipping my arse over the antibiotics, he is a fully grown man who can make his own decisions.

I simply passed him the antibiotics, I didnt force him to swallow them, I didnt try and persuade him to take them, I just gave him the option because he didnt want to go to the doctors.

He, being a fully grown 43 year old man, managed to make the decision all by himself that he, in his own mind, would take those antibiotics. That was his choice.

You are talking to me as though Ive been giving it to one of my children, who cant say no. Hmm

To answer the above question, he is isnt overweight no. He scrawny/lean.
He has no abdominal pain either, I hope this is a good thing.

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Ghostsdonttalk · 20/12/2013 09:10

BUT passing prescription meds to someone is a criminal offence one you could find yourself in the coroners court over. Maybe not likely but possible!

Punkatheart · 20/12/2013 09:22

I agree that you should never pass medication to someone else. It could be dangerous and may also stop them getting their own treatment. You cannot say 'it is his choice' if you have supplied them.

GiraffesAndButterflies · 20/12/2013 09:38

Ok, so consider us kicking your dh's butt as well. No one doubts that he agreed to take them. Unfortunately that's beside the point: you both had an incomplete course of antibiotics, his unprescribed. It is exactly this sort of thing which is responsible for the increase in superbugs like mrsa. And you're not showing any awareness that it's a really stupid thing to do, and takes risks with your own health as well as other people's.

BeaWheesht · 20/12/2013 11:23

But you're missing my point - neither of you could have had a full course of antibiotics which creates antibiotic resistant stains of infections which is bad for entire community long term.

SinisterSal · 20/12/2013 11:30

I don't really care about your ex's response to antib's r anything like that. I am more worried about the reduced efficacy of generic antib's - actual lifesavers OP - and the rise of resistant bug strain. I have known people who have dies from superbugs Angry You ought to cop yourself on and realise that you have done something wrong with your Doc mcStuffins set and stop being such a righteous numpty. People aren't kicking your arse just because its AIBU. it's because you are, albeit in a tiny tiny way, putting the rest of us at risk