...when all he contributes is money and bah humbug spirit? I am in no way being extravagant, and - again - have to face criticism about every single present I have bought, including the ones for HIS family because he can't be arsed to think about any of it he's at work all the time...I am bloody furious, I am not well, and he knows it, and have been doing ALL the thinking, shopping, wrapping, decorating and generally trying to make xmas a nice memory for the children (11 &13) and all he bloody does all the time is bloody complain. Would these be ground for divorce? Alternatively can someone recommend a good monastery in a muslim country where I could emigrate in nov 2014? I can't be doing this again next year, and it'a too bloody early for wine. 