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Was this rude of my friend or am I just sensitive?

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JingleMyBells · 18/12/2013 15:00

Had my best mate and her bf over last night. My bf had written this fake card from the dog to ds and my friend looked at it and just sneered saying "I just can't find this funny".

Yes it's naff. I know this, my boyfriend knew this but so what? if someone showed me something like that, even if I thought it was ridiculous I would feign some interest.

Am I right to think very rude and Bah Humbug.

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JonSnowKnowsNothing · 18/12/2013 15:25

Very rude to mock another family's way of doing things! He sounds like a sneery knobber. (My mum still gives me a little bottle of gin in my stocking saying "love from Gordon.)

lessonsintightropes · 18/12/2013 15:25

I think it's a bit rude but I also think you might be being a bit over sensitive?

sykadelic15 · 18/12/2013 15:32

Personally I think it's adorable that he did that so I think your friend is being a bit stuck-up. She doesn't have to think it's cute or even feign interest, but she doesn't need to be rude about it either.

I personally can't imagine someone not thinking that's adorable. I bet DS loved it (if he was old enough to understand).

ViviPru · 18/12/2013 15:37

Prickly cow. I can't imagine this just being an isolated instance of her demonstrating such social backwardness though, people tend to be generally abrupt and thoughtless or they are not.... It seems a strange thing for a generally pleasant, socially-able person to say.

ProfondoRosso · 18/12/2013 15:40

That's rude. And I don't think you were being 'over' sensitive. That would piss me off.

Your boyfriend sounds like a sweetpea, by the way.

CosyTeaBags · 18/12/2013 15:43

It's cute - and your friend was rude.

So what if she doesn't find it funny, you don't actually say that do you?

MistressDeeCee · 18/12/2013 15:44

Your friend is being rude, & in front of her man,too. Perhaps she was trying to impress him with her cutting wit. Nothing wrong with being sensitive - perhaps your friend could try it. Also its the height of bad manners to visit someone's home & be disparaging about what you see there.

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JingleMyBells · 18/12/2013 15:48

It just hurt my feelings but glad other people think she was in the wrong. She is lovely but often engages her mouth before her brain

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diddl · 18/12/2013 15:52

Well there wasn't a need to say anything really, was there.

She didn't find it funny-well, it doesn't matter because it wasn't directed at her anyway.

I have a card fron my sibling from everyone plus the dog & cat.

Made me tbh.

I guess my dog, cat, rabbit & guinea pig just aren't bothered about being included

CosyTeaBags · 18/12/2013 16:21

I always sign christmas cards from myself and my dogs... and I have several friends who do the same.

Perhaps we're all just giant saddos, but who gives a shit really?

OP enjoy your festive silliness, and ignore what your friend said.

Nancy66 · 18/12/2013 16:36

Well, the card wasn't aimed at an adult was it?
Silly mare.

Mrsb999 · 18/12/2013 16:37

JonSnowKnowsNothing I love the 'love Gordon' thing, Brilliant and would definitely make me laugh. OP don't worry about your friend, as long as you liked it that's the main thing - I personally love things like that!

KhunZhoop · 18/12/2013 16:39

A friend of mine signs ALL her pets names on her cards. Personally, I think she's an idiot, but I wouldn't actually say so.

Casmama · 18/12/2013 16:40

It was pretty rude - my guess would be that her attitude changes when she as kids.

I think I would have been tempted to say "as you can see it is not addressed to you so there is no need for you to find it funny"

harticus · 18/12/2013 16:41

Why would you care what this silly tit thinks?
It is nothing to do with her.

Vintagebeads · 18/12/2013 16:42

I also think its a cute thing to do.

I don't understand people who think stuff like that is naff feel the need to share these pearls of wisdom with people.

My mum send a christmas card to DD from her cat

quesadilla · 18/12/2013 16:42

It is rude and not her place to comment on your private family traditions.

Rhubarbgarden · 18/12/2013 16:51

Rude. And normally I'm the first to say "oh stop being over sensitive."

magesticmallow · 18/12/2013 16:52

She probably just spoke without thinking and needs to engage her brain first in future but I do think you are being a little sensitive too. I personally wouldn't find that funny, it's like something my sil would do and as she withers me about her dogs so much I struggle to fake interest anymore so could very well have had that reaction too but wouldn't have done it to be rude, that would have been the polite version of what was in my head with my sil Do ye go on about your dog a lot? I'm another who thinks cards too/from animals is sad

sykadelic15 · 20/12/2013 01:43

I just got a Christmas card from a friend addressed to myself, my husband and our 2 dogs (by name).

My husband appreciated not having his name automatically shortened e.g. Jeffrey to Jeff, Alexander to Alex (really bothers him when people do it when they don't know him) and we both appreciated that they remembered our fur-children and their names... quite a lot actually. The card makes me smile (I may even get out the paints and have them sign the card :) )

BillyBanter · 20/12/2013 01:49

I do think it was rude but I also think its a little bit oversensitive to give a shiney shite what this wankbadger thinks.

Madmammy83 · 20/12/2013 01:58

I got a Valentine's card from the dog one year. I died a little inside.

RunRabbit · 20/12/2013 02:34

Rude of her.

ScaredToBeHonest · 20/12/2013 06:18

I always put our dog's name on birthday and Christmas cards and feel a bit sad when close friends miss him off cards they send to us. He is part of the family.

He has also sent cards to me or DH

Writerwannabe83 · 20/12/2013 07:33

Every year my DH gets Christmas/Birthday cards/presents from our cats

I'm pretty sure he thinks it's totally lame but he knows it is just part of my silly attitude towards our cats (who I absolutely adore) so he just graciously smiles and goes along with it

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