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AIBU?

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Annoyed with what dp has bought me

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TheCrumpetQueen · 16/12/2013 18:20

Just seen in a carrier bag (wasn't hidden) that dp has bought me another Pandora charm thing for Christmas I guess.

I've got a whole bracelet full as he's bought a charm for every birthday and Christmas for a while. I stopped wearing it when ds was born as it kept clipping him when I would hold him.

He knows I don't wear it and that its full. I really think its a bit of a cop out gift as he couldn't be bothered to think of something different. I actually told him I would like a little antique necklace from a specific shop the other day.

I'm an ungrateful twunt, aren't I

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AryaofhouseSnark · 16/12/2013 19:54

What are you getting your dp Crumpet ?

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TheCrumpetQueen · 16/12/2013 19:57

I've got him some bits he asked for but will get a couple more thoughtful things that I know he love

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Ragwort · 16/12/2013 20:00

I can't really afford gifts this year so am using my overdraft. - wouldn't it have been more useful to have a discussion about not exchanging gifts this year?

I just don't get adults wanting 'special' gifts & then being disappointed if their partner isn't a mind reader.

mummytowillow · 16/12/2013 20:01

Could be worse my ex used to buy me a CD and a book every year!

He would sometimes conceal them in the tesco shop WE did together!

Guess that's why he's an ex now

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TheCrumpetQueen · 16/12/2013 20:05

Rag we always say we won't buy gifts as things are tight but then always do :) nothing too expensive though

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harriet247 · 16/12/2013 20:12

I cabt believe im the first one to say but go and bloody peek woman!and then report back . immediately.

AryaofhouseSnark · 16/12/2013 20:19

I have got my dp a steering wheel cover, because he is always complaining about how cold it is.
I have got a few other bits too, but nothing special. I just don't think I am a thoughtful present buyer.
I hope he doesn't ltc (leave the cow)

CranberrySaucyJack · 16/12/2013 20:21

On this fence with this one. Yes, it is a bit boring if you've already got 50 million of the bloody things BUT presumably at one you loved (or pretended to love) getting them on special occasions so he probably thinks he can't go wrong with another one.

sykadelic15 · 16/12/2013 20:30

If you told him explicitly no more charms, then no you're not BU.

If you never told him specifically then you're being slightly unreasonable.

That said, my husband always buys me a charm as part of my present 'cause mine is pretty empty. I have told him to hold off for now because I need more silver ones and less of the shiny ones (probably be buying them myself now to be honest). Oh, and the ones he's picked always have a reason... like the black and brown ones. One for each of our puppies :)

NoAddedSuga · 16/12/2013 20:42

My dh excited told me when it was my birthday that he had got me 8 presents! We had only been together just over 2 months. I was doing slimming world t the time and was really into it.

When arriving at his on my birthday, all my presents were on the couch, all wrapped.

He sat with me whilst i opened them

Every single fucking one was a piece of gym equipment!!! I hate the gym.

whois · 16/12/2013 21:38

I can't really afford gifts this year so am using my overdraft

That's really stupid! Do something really cheap, like an IOU for a fancy meal in, or to do something nice for him that you wouldn't normally do which he'll appreciate.

formerbabe · 16/12/2013 21:40

YABU...and sound very spoilt

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TheCrumpetQueen · 16/12/2013 22:00

Wanna hear spoilt? None of the charms are even nice expensive ones or with bits of gold. They're the silver and plastic ones :(

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AryaofhouseSnark · 16/12/2013 22:21

Ltb

AryaofhouseSnark · 16/12/2013 22:21

MoreThanChristmasCrackers · 16/12/2013 22:24

YABU and ungrateful, a bit.
Why not write him a list, then he'll always get it right.
I just do one list with everything I would like and dh and dc sort some things off the list.

Thornita17 · 16/12/2013 22:28

Uuuuuh Pandora bracelets are fuxking expensive!!!! Hes probably at a loss.

fatlazymummy · 17/12/2013 14:09

If you don't like it then smile and thank him nicely when you open it, then take it back to the shop after christmas.
Next year (or birthday) give him a list of things you would really like.
No need for any drama.

MelanieCheeks · 17/12/2013 14:24

Surely the point of these bracelets is that you can chop and change, add more or less, have different colour schemes etc?

My DH bought me one for Valentines Day 2 years ago, with the promise that I'd get at least one new charm a year. Often they are well thought through charms - 3 of them were given to me as part of his wedding vows to me over an anvil in Gretna Green, for example - and some are just pretty colours. But I also have the leather strap which looks good with just a few charms on it, and I often re-arrange the ones I have depending on what I'm wearing. For my birthday this year he bought me the leather carry case.

He thinks you'll like them, that's why he bought them. I think you sound a bit spoilt. Maybe you dont wear it as much now that your little one is young, but there's bound to be fancy nights out in the future, no?

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TheCrumpetQueen · 17/12/2013 14:35

Tbh I just don't really like it anymore either, it's so chunky and heavy and my wrists are very slim so it doesn't suit me.

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quesadilla · 17/12/2013 14:39

Unless you have actually specified that you don't want any more YAB a bit U although I sympathise somewhat.

MelanieCheeks · 17/12/2013 14:40

Then exchange the new ones for a leather wraparound strap that you can wear just a couple of charms on at a time - much daintier.

KellyEllyMincePieBelly · 17/12/2013 14:42

I don't think you are ungrateful at all. If your partner can't be arsed to actually put any thought into your gift he may as well just give you the cash. Buying a gift that you know someone doesn't want is worse then being a bit ungrateful about what you receive.

Upcycled · 17/12/2013 14:48

I dont understand adults asking one another presents for Christmas TBH

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TheCrumpetQueen · 17/12/2013 14:53

Is it an odd thing to do Upcycled?

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