Who on earth would anyone do this?

[LivelySoul]

I've just received a phone call from a dear friend of mine.

She has told me her DH popped in to the local pub last night (where my ex husband drinks) and that he was flashing pictures of my DD around the pub to anyone who would look in his direction.

The thing is the pictures he was showing were pictures I had taken at a family event! The only explanation I can think of someone has taken them off my FB page and sent them to my ex.

I would like to clarify that ex does not have any contact with DD anymore, he has been awful to me and has said some truly unforgivable things with regards to DD. Why would somebody I class as a friend do this? And why would he go around pretending he is involved in DD life when actually they all know damn well he isn't. I don't have any of his friends on my FB and my page is 100% private.

My friends poor DH was livid. They are party to everything that has happened with my ex and he left without even touching his drink as didn't feel he could hold his tongue.

Am I wrong to be annoyed?

Ok Sock I'm not even going to bother explaining the differences as you clearly have your mind made up given a handful of posts you have seen. Have a lovely day.

He described several but that was the on specific example that no one else could of posted that picture.

To me the answer is simple just don't put pictures of your DC on FB.

He must have had a good looooong look at the pics to be able to describe them so accurately. And I agree with sock. Why are you advising another woman that she's being obstructive to block phone calls when on other threads you are blocking Christmas presents and photos yourself?

With all due respect OP there is ALWAYS a link. Always. When you upload a photo to facebook, it then belongs to facebook. We all have people on our "friends" list who secretly piss us off, and we all know people who use facebook just to spy on people. My own husband has no account but could tell you the business of everyone within a 10 mile radius because he logs on to my account and searches for people he knows. I've seen wedding pictures of people I've never met. I've seen photographs of children I'll never see. None of those people are on my friends list. I got rid of all personal pictures off my account a long time ago, I do not post events or pictures of children anymore. If people want to see photos I'll e-mail them. I know loads of people who look at facebook through their husband/wife/sister/brother/mother/cousin's accounts because they're not directly friends with people. Bottom line - if you wouldn't want the picture in the local paper, don't put it online.

Absolutely Madmammy!

I would reduce the visibility of your photos of your DD, to a select group of family/friends. If you set them up as a group, it is easy to manage.

I see your point Madmammy, I guess I just thought private meant private.

MostWicked - thanks I think I will do this.

For the poster who said I am blocking photographs and Christmas Presents, this is NOT the case. I was asking opinions regarding Christmas Presents due to the fact that I had been advised it maybe was better for my daughter not to accept them and by someone else to accept. i was looking for opinions and actually stated I AM going to accept. As for blocking photo's I have said he receives photographs through his Mum within this thread. What my issue is with is someone removing photographs of my child to give to a man who has actually said he does not love DD and wants nothing to do with her, and he flashes them about to anyone who will look, their ARE convicted pedophiles that drink within this establishment, although I can't say if these people ever saw a photograph the thought quite frankly makes me sick to my stomach. My issue is that someone thinks it's ok to lift photographs from someone's FB of a child that has nothing to do with them.

My opinion on another post regarding a woman not going through legal channels is unrelated in my eyes. She is suffering abuse, which I truly feel for her. I have said this. When I said she was obstructing contact it was PRIOR to her actually writing the true harrowing facts of what was going on her life. Without those facts I along with others expressed she was being obstructive. Once she actually said what was going on I apologised.

Just delete your Facebook account. Yes it makes it easier to keep in touch with some people, but you know, it didn't exist until recently & you will cope without it.

YANBU