I just have to vent cos I am getting crosser and crosser by this.
Life is a series of choices, some good some bad and some choices we don't really want to make. We also can't have everything we want.
I am very fortunate to be able to stay at home (work from home too) and look after my child.
We do not get child benefit
I believe that you should only get child benefit for your 1st child. This is because, even though you know it will cost, you don't understand the cost until you have had a child. So help at this point would be good.
Any further children that you choose to have or accidentally have should be your responsibility. You have the choice to use contraception, you have the choice to terminate and you have the choice to keep your legs shut.
You are entitled to have as many children as you want but you are responsible to take care for them, no one else.
I haven't thought through the multiple birth scenarios.
Subsequently we cannot afford to have another child and we haven't had one. That is our choice, we could of course move house to a cheaper/smaller one and various other options and IF we had fallen PG by accident we would have to have changed our circumstances to accommodate, if that was our choice to do so.
People need to take responsibility for their own lives.