To think that ones parents should not have to fund a second wedding?

[Tydna]

If the parents are elderly and of limited means is it usual to expect them to fund a second wedding , for the same child? Particularly if they paid in full for the first lavish wedding.
Is this unfair to other siblings as well as the parents?

Well speaking from experience, I am getting married again (second time) next year. My parents paid for my first wedding as they offered and could afford to at the time. The marriage didn't work out and I felt very guilty for the money they had spent. That aside I wouldn't dream of asking for any financial contribution this time, nor do we expect any wedding gifts and will be advising guests that's they are not necessary.

I hope your aunt & uncle tell your cousin to fund their own wedding, perhaps they could offer practical help to organise instead albeit this should not be expected of them.

a young woman, who is not financially independent, marrying an approved partner, might reasonably expect the first wedding to be funded by her parents.
second weddings are funded by the bride and groom.

For the couple wanting the wedding paid, it's so far beyond unreasonable it's into another galaxy. They should be ashamed of themselves except they must have no shame to ask.

For the other children, nothing to do with you. Your parents can spend their money on a riotous life of drugs, champagne and jet setting or give it all to the local donkeys sanctuary. You are not entitled to an inheritance.

The only qualification I'd make re the other children is will this ridiculous wedding leave the parents short and will the other children then have to fund the parents. If not, then it's none of their business.

"Your parents can spend their money on a riotous life of drugs, champagne and jet setting or give it all to the local donkeys sanctuary. You are not entitled to an inheritance."

This is the most ludicrous, short-sighted fucking infuriating attitude.

I've no interest in having an inhertance.

But that doesn't mean that ANYONE is entitled to spend all their money on drugs and champagne and leave nothing for care in their old age when they need it.

I would be EXTREMELY fucking pissed off if I had parents foolish enough to start giving large gifts to my greedy siblings as they entered old age.

Their future lack of money could well mean that MY FAMILY would have to go without to make sure they didn't suffer when they got really elderly and couldn't cope any longer without additional care.

Added to that, it is well known that as people age they become more vulnerable to financial exploitation.

So it IS my fucking business if someone is trying to fleece my parents out of their money by manipulating them into giving them "gifts". And if those people were my siblings (they wouldn't be) I would do whatever I could to protect my parents from their thieving.