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is it me or ungrateful p?

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GeraldineFangedVagine · 13/12/2013 22:36

So, for xmas as a surprise I bought my partner a new smartphone which was expensive, but ive been saving all year so it was ok. I felt pretty good about. It so happens his existing phone broke this week and he was going to get a new one. I had to tell him not to and so admitted id ordered him a new phone. He was very pleased.
New phone arrived today so he asked me to charge it, so he could use it when he got in. He came home completely shitfaced said I shouldnt have bought it and return it. Obviously cant as ive opened the box. He kept up the pretence it was too expensive for all of 5 mins before admitting its the wrong phone. I feel like a complete twat, I was just doing a nice thing. He also thinks I spent that much so hed buy me a ring. Im 5 months pregnant with a very expensive paperweight and I feel really bad. Where did I go wrong?

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HairyGrotter · 14/12/2013 09:05

He comes across as an entitled selfish arse, how was he dragged up?!

I'd rather an android now, iPhones are shite since the update! It was a well thought out and saved up for thought, his rudeness says a lot about him, i.e he's a selfish entitled arse

SpottyDottie · 14/12/2013 09:12

Ungrateful Git.

Keep it yourself and give him sweet FA

StatelyAsAGalleon · 14/12/2013 09:27

Stick in on eBay and let him sort out his own phone.

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 14/12/2013 09:59

Keep it for yourself. You deserve it, and I think you will enjoy it once you use it.
I'd buy your DP a giant chocolate bar, and tell him you had no money left after buying the phone.

ZombieMojaveWonderer · 14/12/2013 10:02

Jeez why put up with this crap. The worst I get from my husband is his awful singing when we go shopping and that's just because I'm embarrassed. He's not mean or spiteful or ungrateful and if he was I wouldn't be with him. I had enough of that with my last husband! You may think its not that bad but his behaviour just sucks and is bound to get worse. Do yourself a favour and keep the phone and get rid of the partner! Easy for me to say but then I have actually been there and done it!

QueenStromba · 14/12/2013 13:10

If it just came yesterday then you should be able to change it under the distance selling regulations (by came I assume you meant that you ordered it online or something).

Tulip26 · 14/12/2013 13:47

If it's been less than 14 days you can take phone back. Even if it's been used. Just been through this myself. Take it back and treat yourself and your kid.

GeraldineFangedVagine · 14/12/2013 14:52

Thanks for the advice all. I came home and hes using the bloody phone. Cant return it now. No proper apology. All very shit.

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QueenStromba · 14/12/2013 16:24

You should still be able to return it.

MajesticWhine · 14/12/2013 20:21

Hope you are able to address this with him, tell him that his behaviour was hurtful, and get some resolution. Not good to bottle it up.

Financeprincess · 14/12/2013 22:22

What an arse.

Is your partner George Clooney? If not, why does he think that women would have to blackmail him into marriage with expensive presents?

Swap the phone for some trainers. Run away from him and keep on running. You and your children deserve better than this.

AnUnearthlyChild · 14/12/2013 22:30

You can return it. Even if he has used it.

Distance selling regs and all that. Google it.

Take it off him, pack it up and send it back.
Don't take any shit off the company you got it from. You are totally entitled to return it.

And don't take shit from him. Don't buy him owt else either.

What a twatbadger

BadLad · 15/12/2013 12:23

He sounds like an absolute twat.

But I do think people are best off choosing their own cell phones if they want top of the range ones. Lovely thought though it was.

Branleuse · 15/12/2013 12:37

dump the fucker

Nataleejah · 15/12/2013 13:12

I think you made a mistake. A smartphone is something people are very particular about. Send it back, or if you can't, then sell it.

GeraldineFangedVagine · 15/12/2013 19:43

I did indeed make a mistake. Not for the first time.

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Bithurt · 15/12/2013 19:52

My dh bought a new phone but after a week of using it decided he didn't like it and they took it back. Just swapped it for the one he wanted.

Yanbu btw.

harriet247 · 15/12/2013 19:59

TThat is really really shitty. Yanbu!I would just say 'do you know how much you hurt my feelings yesterday? I hope you are really fucking ashamed of yourself' do a little cry and take his bank card out for a walk.

LouiseAderyn · 15/12/2013 21:10

I think that if someone buys you something with love and thought then it is really shitty to be so ungrateful and nasty.

I don't think you should marry this man - he is not kind. The older I get, the more I think that kindness is probably the most important trait in a man and the most important element in a relationship. That and respect.

Return the phone if you can and don't you dare buy him anything else! He is a twat.

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