To think my friend was rude

[HaveAstarterANDaPudding]

Last Saturday I had two friends round.

We had arranged weeks ago that they would come to mine for drinks (for my birthday) and I would cook tea. Nothing fancy, but I love to cook for people (as they know) and was really looking forward to catching up and to being hostess for a change.

On Saturday mornig I shopped for and cooked a lovely fish pie, all ready to go in the oven later.

At 3pm my friend texted me to ask what I was cooking as she is doing Slimming World and if it didn't suit, she would bring her own dinner.
I replied saying it's fish pie but I have lots of salad as well, please don't bring your own meal - I have shopped and cooked specially.
She replied saying "yum".

They arrived at 7 and when, at 7:30, I said "right - I'll pop dinner on", my friend said "oh - I've already eaten, I had a SW meal. I'll not have any thanks".

I thought this was so rude. But when I moaned to my sister about it today she said Iwbu as SW friend shouldn't feel she has to eat fattening food just to please me. And I think she was probably right. But still - she was the one who didn't bother to tell me until 4 hours before dinner and she led me to believe that she was ok with it.

I still think the way she handled it was shit. If I had known a day or two earlier I would have cooked something a bit healthier.

AIBU to have felt a bit gutted (and to have felt cheated out of my rare chance to cook for friends)?

It is rude, there's no getting away from it. She could have eaten a small amount, filled up on salad, adjusted her intake for the days before or days after.

But, if she has just started she might be a bit overly obsessive about it, until she had a drink!

I've lost over 4.5 stone on SW. I'd have eaten your fish pie !

iklboo Wow. Well done. That's a great achievement.

of course YANBU! If you're on some sort of diet and you're worried about overdoing it, either a) have small portions or b) arrange to meet over drinks rather than dinner. I can't believe anyone would think it OK to turn up for dinner, as arranged, then refuse to eat any of it. I put a lot of effort into cooking for friends when they come round.