DH has started misusing "myself", like he's an estate agent or works in a call centre. WIBU to LTB?

[MardyBra]

He had very good grammar when I married him in the last century.

It's very embarrassing.

[DuchessFanny]

It IS highly irritating I know this, yet cannot stop !

And yes, tic it is ... Bloody pedantic wanker ...

' at the end of the day ' is still worse IMHO

[NewtRipley]

Prefer


Lovely - I love Victoria Wood.

[tinkertitonk]

breatheslowly

Nice work.

[youretoastmildred]

I was astonished the other day when it turns out my boss is one who is always "turning round and" saying. And everyone he has ever talked to also turns round when they say anything. He really doesn't seem the type. All these people twirling and talking, twirling and talking....

[SomewhereBeyondTheSea]

What DOES YOLO mean?

[SomewhereBeyondTheSea]

PS. Please revert to myself soonest.

[MardyBra]

Somewhere YOLO means "you only live once".
Its use is somewhat similar to "carpe diem".

[ScaredToBeHonest]

My friend claims to be very particular about and is very vocal about spelling and grammar yet frequently misuses 'myself.'

I just smile and nod.

[PoshPaula]

Sorry meant 'more bang for my buck'. Such a ridiculous phrase I can't get it right.

[phantomnamechanger]

Well, basically, my problem is my SIL, who starts every bloomin sentence with the words "well, basically..."

arrrrgh!

[PoshPaula]

Almost as bad as starting every phrase with 'You know what?' With a very slight American twang.

[MardyBra]

I finished with a boyfriend once for, basically, saying "basically" all the time. I was only 14 at the time though.

[AndHarry]

YANBU, my DH has just started doing that but I don't think I can pull him up on it until I've finally succeeded in stopping him finishing every question with 'or?' Sgjdffxgcgggccd Or WHAT?!!!!!!

[lottiegarbanzo]

I don't like 'it is what it is' at all but mostly I find its useage (mostly by young, spotty men in cheap suits, estate agents or otherwise) laughable.

It has recent military origins, which is why it's been adopted more by men. It means 'some absolutely horrible, gruesome thing has happened, probably killing or maiming my colleagues, possibly as a result of a mistake, or accident, almost certainly serving no useful purpose. But, it is what it is' i.e. there is no point seeking to attribute blame, or even to understand, there is no reason. It just is and we must move forwards, quickly and calmly, from here.

That's quite profound really and very much the sentiment conveyed, about war as a whole, in Kurt Vonnegut's 'Slaughterhouse 5'.

So, when I hear some pallid youth, who'd be stumped if asked to do his on ironing, say, in earnest tones, 'it is what it is', about his best friend not being able to meet up for a 'cheeky pint' until 8.15, I think 'you silly twit, stop trying to attach an aura of gravitas to the mundane details of your comfortable life by seeking an association with a coping mechanism adopted by people functioning at the edge of humanity'.

[justmyview]

"Myself and X are going out tonight .......... "

I love my DH dearly, but when I hear this, it sets my teeth on edge. I'm too polite to say anything, but I wince inside

[LCHammer]

Is he German? Oder?

[PoshPaula]

lottie fantastic post! you are why I love Mumsnet.

[LCHammer]

Argh, that was to AndHarry.

[lottiegarbanzo]

Also, estate agents - comprising. It does not compromise of. Not ever. It might consist of but it simply comprises. Ok? Thank you.

[limitedperiodonly]

duchess I say 'it is what it is' a lot, so don't feel bad about that.

However, do feel bad for spelling tic tick.

[LCHammer]

Good post, Lottie. I doubt as much thought goes into the phrase, however.

[youretoastmildred]

lottiegarbanzo, great post on the incredible, blissful unselfconsciousness of men and the actual physical persona they present to the world

similar to a pub full of fat, bald, smoking, barely-able-to-jog-let-alone-run middle-aged men, watching a TV screen full of 20 year old gazelle-like athletes playing football with balletic grace. If one of them mis-times a kick by a fraction of a second, these sweating porcine animals roar "YOU DON-KAY!!!!!!!!!!" and I can't believe they don't know ... they just don't... I can't even...

[Lovelybitofsquirrel]

Do you think you'll be able to improve his grammar going forward?
Really can't stand that expression!

[lottiegarbanzo]

I don't think it's thought about but I do think it was picked up knowingly from military use, so is (or was originally, two or three years ago) used with a deliberate 'sounding really tough and purposeful' association.

[limitedperiodonly]

Obviously I use it in that profound, Slaughterhouse 5, kind of way.

BTW, the only thing I wear in bed is Slaughterhouse 5