To drive to the hospital where DiL is

[reelingaroundthechristmastree]

having my very PFGD?

(I won't really but I so want to)

I'm loving you reeling and you can be my MIL

My MIL did this.. I was at 6cm And my DH had to take her to get a coffee!!!! BIL picked her up and she never did it again !

Good luck, Reeling! Hope there's some lovely news for you this morning!

My MIL turned up when we'd asked her not to, when I was still in delivery (she was there before the baby was born, and waited in the waiting room with my mum, then they both came into the delivery room to have a look.) I have to say, it wasn't the worst thing in the world to have happened. It was fine. She had a quick cuddle, then my mum drove her home.

It is entirely possible that I was preoccupied with my gorgeous new son that I forgot to be all upset about it.

Ooo, congratulations. Wonderful that you want to go, but are restraining yourself!

Enjoy your PFGC

Someone take the car keys off of this woman, you sound like you might turn out to be a pain in your DILs arse at this rate, your baby's not a baby anymore when he's impregnating women

This is all why i am going to ask DH not to ring/text ANYONE to tell them when i go into labour. Perfectly ok to ring/text when baby is born. Everyone (especially my mum as she lives alone) is only going to be sat waiting and worrying for what could be hours otherwise. And then be champing at the bit to rush to the hospital. No thank you very much.

I hope OP got some sleep. And i hope we have an update

Buy all today's papers, so baby can see what was happening the day they were born (when it's older and can read of course).

Hope all is well and that the little one has arrived.

My PIL didn't see either of my DC until they were 5 weeks old - it might have been nice to have someone who couldn't wait!

Plodding that made me laugh about the toilet rolls - I do this but only in my own home no one elses as I clearly understand the boundaries

I would be mortified if any family member felt it was ok to let themselves in like that (they all have keys) so I do totally understand where you are coming from, XMIL would have done the same and probably sat cuddling the baby having a fag!

I do think that I would have be very unreasonable about XMIL as I really dislike her so her breathing annoyed me which stopped me thinking rationally or fairly about anything involving her!

DH and I are currently 'in discussion' about this. He wants to call his mum and tell her when I go into labour. I had the entire family (both sides) in the waiting room during the last part of my labours with DS & DD and I wish I hadn't. They all piled into the delivery room as soon as I was stitched up :(

This time, no way. We've compromised on him being allowed to let MIL know when it kicks off if it's daytime (I don't want her sitting up all night unable to sleep, like poor OP!) but she's to stay put until it's out. She's about 45 minutes away, so we'll get a bit of breathing room.

Well done, reeling! Any news?

Allow all DSs siblings plus their spouses to bolt upstairs and jump on DILs bed like happy puppies while she is naked in a sheet leaking bm and blood while you show great restraint sitting downstairs.

Then she will remember you as the only reasonable one in the family :)

Seriously though hope all is well

Cloverkiss

Erm, my uptightness at the toilet roll hanging infringements might be because I'm a bit fixed in my opions on that matter too ... but obviously only because mine is the right, logical way!

Of course - mine too but I will not tell you which way I do it in case I find out mine is the wrong way

Congratulations! You need to get there quick and bring your other DGCS with you, complaining loudly at the midwives when they won't let them meet their new cousin! I am still bitter about that

Aww reeling I'm going to go against the grain, my lovely MIL was there when I gave birth to her PFGS - she came in to drop off snacks and I asked het to stay, she was a very calming influence and has a lovely relationship with DS.

Fingers crossed for some new baby squidging soon!

This made me laugh OP. it would have been a feisty and ultimately flattened nurse that denied entrance to my mum the day DS was born. She would carry him round on a purple velvet cushion even now if she could. He's 6.

my MIL called two hours after the birth 'they were in the area '-car park-- , could they be first visitors? '

They live an hour away. . there was no chance they 'justghappened to be in the area'!

DH also insisted they come in. I've let it go now. not really, not ever.

I've only got sons so if I ever have grandchildren I'll be the MIL of their mother. I think Reeling sounds lovely and I hope she gets to meet her son's child soon. And I hope if my sons have children their partners cut me some slack and don't fall prey to the myth of the interfering MIL. Most of you on this thread sound very reasonable and I know most people are joking, but it makes me feel very sad all the same.

There's no need to feel sad singer. There is the 'cliche' (i wouldn't say it's a myth - my XMIL was real enough! ) of the 'interfering' MIL, but IME of real life outside MN i believe a DIL will treat her MIL with the same treatment she receives. ie if MIL shows love, respect, acceptance and observes boundaries then she will receive the same in return.

Same goes for the maternal GM too.

With regards to MIL or my own DM in the room with me, or hovering in the waiting room when i give birth ... it's an equal 'no thanks'.

(my current MIL is lovely btw, and we get on well)

How exciting!
Pils and my DM sat in the waiting room during my mammoth labour with DS1. They learnt their lesson with Ds2 and came over once he was born, they were looking after ds1 though.
They popped in briefly for a coo and a snuggle.

Both times, Pils came over when I got out of hospital with a cooked chicken, flowers and more easy to grab food. That was very thoughtful I will copy.

Enjoy

I think it's difficult tbh.

I get on better with my parents than my ILs & felt more able to see them after the birth.

Glad I stayed at home, poor DiL still hasn't had her yet.
Bet she's whacked.

How long has it been?

Did she go in at the first twinge?

No, they got sent home yesterday evening, went back in about midnight.