I need some outside persepective and feel like a bad mother so feel free to be harsh and put me back in my place.
Anything anybody has or is doing my dd wants a piece of the action but not in a rude way but it really grates on me for example:
Someone walks into the lounge with a can of coke - ooh coke please may I get a can of coke.
I was given chocolates as a gift, my dh asked if he could have one I said do I get to keep nothing in this place ok have one. I've gone to the box and four are gone, I said to dh why did you eat four and he said he had two and dd asked so he gave her two.
If I go out anywhere dd asks to come too even if its not something she'll enjoy she'd prefer to come along than be left out.
Because I feel bad about not wanting to always include dd due to the cost (she's an old teen so adult cost) or share items with dd, I've stopped doing stuff and purchasing items.
But this is making me begrudge her behaviour more.
If I decline her wants she isn't rude she just accepts it but then I feel guilty. If I don't invite her I then feel guilty.
This is more my issue than my dd's isn't it?
Would I BU if I was to exclude (or not include) dd sometimes?
Would I BU to decline her having something that someone else has sometimes?
Everyone else in the house shares everything with her. No one else in the house is like this, i.e. they don't ask if they see someone with something, they choose to come to things that they ony really really want to do.