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Thanks, Amazon.

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HankyScore · 06/12/2013 09:10

Now, I know this is a bit unreasonable, but I do think Amazon are being a leeeeetle bit ridiculous here, considering the time of year.

DH has bought me a Kindle Fire for Christmas. As a surprse. He's used my (our, I suppose) Amazon account so it's all set up, and diligently deleted all the emails Amazon sent regarding the order. We both use the Amazon account for Christmas stuff, we've turned off the 'because you viewed' suggestions and it has worked like this for years without spoling any surprises.

It's not the end of the world. BUT. Amazon have now sent me about four or five emails welcoming me to Kindle Fire. Adverts, coupons, info. I feel a bit bombarded.

I'm not going to tell DH, and i do KNOW that we've brought this on ourselves by sharing an account and stuff, but really. This many emails? Surely we can't be the only people who've had this problem? Couldn't they curb the invasive marketing just until January?

AIBU?

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randomquicknamechange · 06/12/2013 09:15

YABU and YANBU

I think amazon should wait until after Christmas to send out those emails at this time of year just in case.
I equally think it is a risk you take when you share an email address, DH and I also share one but as he only shops online and I only shop in actual shops I just don't check it from mid November. He prints off anything I need to see, but I only ever get adverts.

Mia4 · 06/12/2013 09:24

YANBU because it's annoying but YABU because this is a big and likely risk and your DP should have thought of it in advance. Any kind of information about it was bound to come through at some point, he could have used a whole other email or even another account- it's not hard to set up.

I do feel the annoyance though, my DP uses my ebay account and one year I hid everything i brought him yet I started getting promotional messages sent through raving about 'now you've purchased this' and he saw one. It's something you have to consider, I should have done and so should have your DP.

craftynclothy · 06/12/2013 09:26

I think YABU but then I don't really understand why you'd share an account (or why couple share an email address). The only thing we share is a Paypal account and that's because I used to have a business account, so we had a personal account linked to our joint account iyswim.

HectorVector · 06/12/2013 09:27

Email them. Ask them to review their policy? I wonder if they'd have emailed etc... If you'd have ticked the 'it's a gift' option?

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 06/12/2013 09:31

YANBU
I've struggled with a gift for DH this year and was very pleased with myself when I found a specialist cycling top that I know he'd love.

Typically, it got delivered on one of his very few days off, in a black plastic bag - with a huge bright yellow sticker on it showing exactly where it came from. This company only do cycling gear, no disguising what it was :(

kmc1111 · 06/12/2013 09:32

Well if you'd just bought yourself a Kindle Fire now (or anything else that comes with a few follow-up emails), nothing to do with Christmas, I'd imagine it would be rather annoying to get these emails a month late because Amazon were holding back on account of a very small minority of people who share accounts and use them to buy each other surprise gifts.

Surely the answer is to set up a new Amazon account for one of you. It's not like it's a hard or time-consuming process. How did you end up sharing one anyway?

mrsjay · 06/12/2013 09:38

yanbu I do think as somebody else said Amazon should wait until after the 25th to send out these mails and whatnot saying that I guess they thought it was you who ordered it you husband should be on top of hiding these mails Grin it is a shame though does your husband know that you know you are getting a kindle ?

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HankyScore · 06/12/2013 09:42

It's actually my Amazon account, but somehow it's become the 'family' one (mainly because it has Prime).

We don't share an email adress, but mine is, again, the 'family' one. It's just the way it's happened.

I haven't told DH I know, and it doens't really matter, it's just made me a bit humphy is all.

Bah humbug, Amazon.

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Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 06/12/2013 09:42

I have unsubscribed from All Amazon emails this week as it was too much, 2 or 3 a day…any companies that send more than 2 emails a week feels like spam to me!

mrsjay · 06/12/2013 09:44

I would be humphy too it is annoying maybe send amazon an emal getting all humphy at them for spoiling it for people.

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HankyScore · 06/12/2013 09:45

Yes, I think I'll do that, unsubscribe AND email them.

Thanks
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ATailOfTwoKitties · 06/12/2013 09:46

Hanky, DH did something similar for my birthday but carefully set it up in HIS name so that everything went to him.

Trouble is, he managed to do it so everything is still addressed to him, and my Kindle now cheerily greets me as Geoff*. Can't change it without losing all the (long) books he'd put on it that I haven't finished yet.

*Names might have been changed to protect the gormless.

gamerchick · 06/12/2013 09:47

It wouldn't have made any difference if you get it delivered at home probably. Mine got me one last year and it was delivered soaking wet in a kindle fire box with no other wrapping. A bit of a giveaway.

Trills · 06/12/2013 09:47

What do you do about the "your order of REALLY NICE PRESENT has been dispatched" emails? You can't claim that they are invasive marketing.

Oldraver · 06/12/2013 09:49

I had to turn off the 'things you have viewed' as it had let on to a few pressies. Also Ebay shows the last few things you have viewed and I havn't figured if you can alter this

mrsjay · 06/12/2013 09:51

I forgot to change the delivery name last year numpty and dh book came addressed to him,I was in and got it before he saw it

NoComet · 06/12/2013 09:54

I have the same problem having set up good play with a DD2 email address.

I think she hasn't got a home email account set up and is only using Gmail or she's going to wonder.

YANBU about Amazon they just will not shut up.

What is the point in showing me 1000 of watches when I've already ordered one.

NoComet · 06/12/2013 09:54

Google play

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HankyScore · 06/12/2013 09:57

Trills, he'd already forwarded and deleted those emails, he had a whole system. And he gets home before me so gets the post.

He wasn't expecting all the follow up marketing emails.

It's a bit much.

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mrsjay · 06/12/2013 10:01

there should be this is a Chrismas gift option on amazon so you dont get the promotional stuff till after christmas, I think a lot of amazon accounts are shared IYSWM

Trills · 06/12/2013 10:05

I didn't mean the ones that come immediately that say "thanks for your order", they are easy enough to catch, I meant the ones that come at an unexpected time a bit later or the next day or the day after saying "your item has been dispatched".

What if he had bought you something, and you had bought him something, and you were both trying to check the email every hour to hide those emails from each other?

Original poster
HankyScore · 06/12/2013 10:09

We just ignore those, they don't have anything incriminating in the subject line.

These ones say WELCOME TO KINDLE FIRE.

Which is slightly annoying.

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Trills · 06/12/2013 10:11

Really?

Mine say in the subject line "Your Amazon.co.uk order of NAME OF ITEM has been dispatched"

If that's not incriminating, what is?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 06/12/2013 10:11

YABU I think.

Amazon prime can have up to 4 e-mails/accounts linked to one subscription, and setting up a kindle for someone else via your account is easy - I've done it for a family member.

It is pretty unusual for people to share e-mail - even my ageing parents have one each! - so how on earth are Amazon to know that something has been bought in secret from the account holder?

YANBU to be disappointed that your surprise is spoilt though, that is a shame :(

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 06/12/2013 10:12

Trills mine say the same as yours.