To LIKE Mil?

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God, am I the only one?

I like my MIL. She's kind and generous.

my MIL is great. I've learned loads from her and I think she has from me,we are kind of opposites personality wise. She lost the plot a little when DS was born but we have come through that wonky stage and get on really well again. she's very maternal and expected to be in charge and at the heart of the whole family for ever, so I think it was very difficult for her when ds came along and dh & I were going to do things the way we wanted to!
The relationship you have with your MIL is one of the most important ones in your life (according to me ,so ignore). I'm glad I've put in the time and effort because the rewards absolutely outweigh the minor skirmishes over control.

What a lovely thread. I love my mil, she's great and I'm so pleased my DC have such lovely grandparents. As mother to 2 boys I've been a bit worried by all the negative mil comments on here, thinking "that could be me one day!" But at least some of us are lucky enough to have nice in laws.

FeisMom
You are all very lucky. My PIL are very difficult, cold, selfish people, even DH doesn't like them.

I think you are right about this. I do consider myself lucky in that respect. I actually have more interaction with the in-laws than my own family, who are also lovely but my mum can be a little distant. My children see far, far more of OH's family (which makes me a little sad at times.)

There are all kinds of people in the world and it stands to reason there will be in-laws out there who are unpleasant. I'm sorry you have one of them.

I like my Mil. Much more so than my actual mother who is a nasty cow

It's mil and stepfil who looks after our children for us, texts and phones to see how we are and helped us out with buying our first home. The rest of our parents are useless and horrible people.

I love mine - really genuinely love her. She and my FIL are both just lovely easygoing people and the entire family all just gets on - it's fab! I'm an only child, so it's wonderful for me to see DS with a big mob of lovely uncles and aunties and cousins, with two genuinely adoring grandparents clucking around us all.

I luffs my MIL too. She thinks (and has told me) that I am "the best thing that ever happened to DH". So, how could I not.

She is also intelligent, thoughtful, loving, generous, gives us buckets of free childcare and generally spoils DDs rotten in helpful ways, like going to their school plays rather than 20 tonnes of Christmas presents (although she does give about 10 tonnes of birthday present...)

She also had an excellent relationship with her MIL. Even after the divorce. She and I joke that she must be the only person to go to her ex-MIL's funeral other than to check that the ex-MIL was really dead!

I have a step mil and she is too be tolerated. My mil passed on many years ago now. My smil is needy selfish and spoilt. But she'd do us favours for little notice, she adores our dd and helps look after her, she teaches dd gardening and baking. She has been lazy in the past. We once discovered she went to sleep whilst in charge of our dd. My FIL said she had a good nights sleep before. We help her out, she's hopeless at the internet and finding a bargain, so we do that for them, and also help with her rights and lefgal stuff. She helps us a lot but life ain't perfect and we have too carry on.

Mine's awesome. I prefer her to my own mum and think she is the universe's way of making up for my own mum being a bit rubbish a lot of the time. It's such a great thing to have a good relationship with your MIL if you can. We've been having a tough time as a family recently and she has been there for us 110%. Couldn't manage without her.

I love mine. I lost my biological mum when I was young and I had an abusive adoptive mother. My MIL to some extent has filled the gap.

She does drive me nuts at times and I moan about her to dh more than I should. But it's not malicious. I do appreciate her and intend to help as she grows old.

She does kind things like buys me lovely gifts because I don't have a mum of my own. She dotes on my kids and buys me flowers when i'm blue. Her home is alwaus welcoming.

I properly love my mother in law, I know we would have been friends if I had met her and she wasn't my husbands mother. To totally honest I prefer her company to my own mother, who I do love but seem to be more on MIL's wavelength

I love my MIL. My DH and I don't have DC's yet but I can't wait to give my MIL grandchildren one day, she will be an amazing grandmother.