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To LIKE Mil?

88 replies

YeahButWhatIf · 04/12/2013 18:26

God, am I the only one?

OP posts:
Twunk · 04/12/2013 20:20

FIL remarried. I wish I'd check my posts make sense before I post them.

MangerMinor · 04/12/2013 20:22

I like my MIL - we're very different, and are never going to be best mates, but we are both grown-ups, let niggles go without getting het up, find common ground, and all things considering, have a very good relationship. DH is close to her and the DC adore her, so I'm quite happy to spend time with her - Christmases, taken her on holiday etc.

valiumredhead · 04/12/2013 20:24

I love my PIL, they are lovely peopleSmile

Tabby1963 · 04/12/2013 20:27

My MIL and FIL were a lovely couple. In their 70s when I met them and traditional in their values, nonetheless they welcomed the pregnant girlfriend of their son with open arms and we never ever had a cross word in all the years I knew them we did marry eventually.

Sadly, they have both passed on now but I am glad to have known them, and to have given them their only grandchildren to enjoy.

I read about other posters parent-in-laws Sad and realise how lucky I was.

Ladyflip · 04/12/2013 20:28

I love my MIL. She wasn't great when the DCs were tiny but she is much better now. Babysits, supports me, knows DH isn't perfect. We are very fond of each other.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 04/12/2013 20:29

YANBU to like yours. You would be VU to like mine

puntasticusername · 04/12/2013 20:36

Mine's brilliant. As is FIL. I'm really lucky with them.

Straitjacket · 04/12/2013 21:34

I really love my MiL! I actually go to her first for anything rather than my own mother.

And, she even got me and dp an advent calendar as well as the kids Grin

cjel · 04/12/2013 21:49

My son in law LOVES LOVES LOVES HisGrin

Mattissy · 04/12/2013 23:34

My dh loves his mil but I have to agree, she's fab. She goes out of her way to help us and always runs around after dh, he buys her flowers off his own bat, it keeps her sweet. Bloody suck up!

HavantGuard · 04/12/2013 23:37

DH likes his MIL. He loves his mother but doesn't like her.

kiwigirl42 · 05/12/2013 00:15

My Mil is wonderful - she can't do enough for us. She is a fabulous grandmother and is a great mum to me (can't stand my own mother) I wouldn't change her for anything

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 05/12/2013 00:21

I love my MIL with all my heart. Wonderful woman.

Morloth · 05/12/2013 00:27

Mine is excellent.

She raised both my wonderful husband and my closest friend so clearly knows what she is doing when it comes to my children.

She really is awesome.

MummyBeerestCupOfCheerest · 05/12/2013 00:34

I love mine. DH doesn't get along with his. He's not U to not.

Mimishimi · 05/12/2013 02:19

Defiitely not the only one. Mine is lovely.

AdoraBell · 05/12/2013 02:36

My DH had a Lucky escape. His MIL was cut off almost immediately after we married and passed away a few years later. Lucky bastard, I had put up with her for fecking decadesEnvy.

PointyChristmasFairyWand · 05/12/2013 09:30

I loved my MIL and my FIL - sadly they are both gone now, but they were wonderful. Very traditional Americans, religious, very 1950s ideas about parenting - but also very accepting of the fact that things are different now. 'Your girls are so well behaved, your way obviously works' kind of thing.

I miss them both.

Chunderella · 05/12/2013 09:51

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NoComet · 05/12/2013 10:01

mine was lovely too and I still miss her, even though she died 12y ago.

She loved Christmas and at some point in the preparations (the mincemeat recipe is in her writing) Dh will go very quiet and we'll share a silent tear.

Ev1lEdna · 05/12/2013 10:18

I've always like mine, and I like both father and sister in law too.

Obviously no-one is going to make a thread (well not usually) Xmas Wink just saying they like them as this forum is more about complaining, it's just the nature of the forum.

Ev1lEdna · 05/12/2013 10:19

Actually I want to correct that I actually love mine like my own family, they are lovely people.

FobblyWoof · 05/12/2013 10:20

YANBU- I used to get on really well with my MIL then I got pregnant and she started going through the change at the same time. We've not really recovered since and I find it quite sad

bolderdash · 05/12/2013 10:21

My MIL is lovely. She's kind, funny, loves dc, spoils them rotten and has been very supportive to me over the years.

I think my favourite tip of hers was not to do the cleaning, washing up when the dc were napping. No, put your feet up she said. And do that while they're awake.

DH on the other hand, has a dreadful MIL. I'm very lucky he's a tolerant man.

FeisMom · 05/12/2013 10:25

You are all very lucky. My PIL are very difficult, cold, selfish people, even DH doesn't like them.

I tolerate them for DHs and the DCs sake. I'd like them more if they were remotely nice to DH and DCs instead of making them feel like they are lacking in many ways.

To be fair to PIL, at least they are consistent and treat all their DCs and GCs with equal disappointment.

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