Teacher not caring that much?

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Hello.

LO, 6, has been having chest pains recently, has been to the doctor and told not to do pe, games or rough play, he has been referred for a paed cardiology appointment, but doctor has said this is precaution not an a&e job at the moment, the school have been told this, in an email and verbally to the class teacher and to the skool office..

so this morning, I tell the teacher he has been having a little pain this morning.. Her response was to turn her head, look at lo, and say 'you have to take responsibility for yourself, if you have chest pain you must sit down, I have a whole class of children, I can't watch you all day'

Now, I know it wasn't life threating, the Dr has said he is ok for skool, and he wasn't crying or anything, just mentioned that he had Abit of pain..
But aibu to think it is the teachers responsibility to look after all the children. It isn't just a sore throat or a grazed knee... I expect the skool to look after him while he is there..
This is a on going thing, he isn't upset, so can't miss skool every day, I am taking him back to the doctors after skool today.
I am mad at teacher, aibu?

Communicate your problem to the Herad. Different teachers handle things in different ways. Unusual pains in children can be serious signs.

recent sad case. A parent had communicated problem to Head; but it had not got passed round teachers. It ended tragic in P.E

Do you mean they need to call you when he has a chest pain so you can pick him up? If you just want to be kept informed but wouldn't do anything different it would be better for them to just let you know at the end of the day.
The teacher could have expressed herself more kindly. She sounds exasperated, but whether she was unreasonable to be exasperated depends on what has gone on before

She could have phrased it better, she did come across as uncaring because of the manner in which.she spoke. However, she is right in that she does have a class of pupils to care for & as your ds has a not so obvious health issue, he will have to alert if he is feeling unwell.

I think your main problem is that it's not clear what your school should be doing for your DS. Maybe arrange a meeting with the headteacher and his teacher (if possible) and talk through all the options. As it is I am not clear if the teacher is supposed to be monitoring your DS's level of pain, if it's up to her to decide when to intervene and call you, or even if she should take more immediate action like call for medical help.

I think her response was poor. He is very young, and some children at that age are very worried about appearing not to conform or causing trouble in any way. I can well imagine that if dd, for instance had had ds's problem she would have tried to soldier on rather than make herself conspicuous in any way. If she'd heard the teacher saying that, she'd have been even more diffident about saying anything when she was in pain.

Teachers do have a duty of care, and having 30 children in the class doesn't change that. It isn't too much to ask that she and the TA keep an eye on ds, leave him out of any strenuous activities and sit him down if he's looking blue, pale or in pain. And particularly it's not too much to ask that she encourage him to tell her if there's a problem rather than speak to him in a tone that sounds almost as if she's blaming him for being a nuisance.

The teacher communicated badly- but if I were you, OP, I would be pushing hard for an urgent referral. A 6 year old shouldn't he hanging around with no pe, games or rough play.....Have you any idea how long you're going to be waiting?

at the bitchy judge comments down to spelling. OP is a worried parent as any of us would be in that situation. Some people on here come over as so vile... being a teacher I know how important spelling is but those reactions are just shitty.

The waiting for an appt or results whilst trying to carry on as normal for dcs is hell, particularly if the appt is for one of your dcs.

I think you should be contacting the school, having a proper meeting and spelling out to them exactly what you would feel comfortable with. A follow up letter from your gp as someone else mentioned up thread could also be useful in clarifying things for the school.

I'm sorry you're going through this worrying time. Good luck.