To not get my 7 month old baby a christmas present

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He's going to get plenty/too many presents that he will never even look at from family and friends.

He won't have a clue what's happening. Has anybody else done this? Am i a horrible person.

2Tinsellytocare I don't really care if you think I'm shallow, and I'm not sure what else I can do to explain myself.

Good. I dont see a explaination as to why you'd think it'd make you an awful mother in any of your posts but I must be missing something never mind

With DS I bought the things I would have got him anyway - such as a playmat and bouncy chair and classed them as Christmas gifts. He was only 3 weeks old, so wouldn't have known the difference, and it stopped DD asking if santa forgot him.

YANBU to not bother, or to get a token gift of a new book etc.

Nope im just getting my new born clothes, gparents will spoil her

Buy dc what it needs and wrap that up and give it tissues to rip. Not bu exactly but just to point out Christmas spirit is about giving those you love things to express that emotion, so if looked at that way it could be perceived as odd which might be why you are questioning yourself.

My in laws bought him presents so he wasn't totally excluded. I didn't even think what DDs would say about him not having a stocking, turns out nothing. He was only 10 days old so I'm guessing that they realised he wouldn't be able to open them or care about them but only you know your own DC and how they are going to react

Of course YANBU. Put some money into a savings account if you can, instead.
ds, as we speak, is out on a driving lesson funded by just such a decision 17 yrs ago - he is really glad we did this a lot for him.

Presents are not the best way to demonstrate love IMO

That is probably the best idea back

Thanks - he'd certainly agree with you