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Original poster

To call the police?

31 replies

icklemssunshine · 03/12/2013 13:21

Hi all,

My neighbours are fighting. Well, he's screaming and smashing things and she's crying. Do I call the police? We're a semi so they'll know it's me who's called but I'm scared about what's going on. They've argued before but this is the worst I've heard.

WYYD?

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bundaberg · 03/12/2013 13:23

i would yes, and I have done in similar circumstances

jacks365 · 03/12/2013 13:23

Call the police. I did and I've never regretted it.

ChaffinchOfDoom · 03/12/2013 13:23

call the 101 no and ask for advice?

harticus · 03/12/2013 13:23

Yes call the police.

Doingakatereddy · 03/12/2013 13:23

Call 101 now

Nancy66 · 03/12/2013 13:23

Yes, call them.

He could be hitting her and she might need help.

They may know it's you but it doesn't matter you still need to do the right thing.

gaggiagirl · 03/12/2013 13:24

Call them. Better safe than sorry.

Justforlaughs · 03/12/2013 13:24

I would, but would make sure I wasn't alone straight afterwards

pigletmania · 03/12/2013 13:24

Yes I would, I don't think I could live with myself if anything happened Sad

bundaberg · 03/12/2013 13:25

i wouldn't call 101, i'd call 999

Original poster
icklemssunshine · 03/12/2013 13:25

It's all gone quiet now. Not sure what to do. I was thinking of calling round to drop off the Xmas card but would that create further drama?

They're a couple in their 60s married for over 30 years - am I butting in on the way they deal with things?

I feel shit for being cowardly!

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WiggleAroundTheChristmasTree · 03/12/2013 13:26

Yes, absolutely. Wouldn't you rather be a little red aces if it's nothing than ignore it and potentially your neighbour ends up harmed.

BigWellyLittleWelly · 03/12/2013 13:26

Yes I would and have called in similar circumstances

WiggleAroundTheChristmasTree · 03/12/2013 13:26

faced*

MmeLindor · 03/12/2013 13:28

If it happens again, call the police.

I know it is hard, but sometimes the abuser needs a short sharp shock. If it was a one off, then it will be enough to make him think about his behaviour.

Generally abusers escalate their behaviour over time, so next time it could be worse for her.

bangersmashandbeans · 03/12/2013 13:32

Don't wait for it to happen again. Call the police. Their age and length of marriage is irrelevant.

Original poster
icklemssunshine · 03/12/2013 13:34

Have called the police & asked not to be identified but they'll know it's me. Am on my own all day as DH at work til 9pm. Really hope they're no retaliation.

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chillykitty · 03/12/2013 13:35

Yes def

Nancy66 · 03/12/2013 13:35

maybe, if there's ever a time when you know the husband has gone out, you could pop round and say that you heard raised voices and wanted to make sure everything was ok.

I wouldn't go over when he's in because he could take it out on his wife in a 'now look what you've done' way.

Original poster
icklemssunshine · 03/12/2013 13:41

DH & I have lived next door to them for 5 years but it's only been in last 6 months since he's had early retirement that this has started happening or maybe it's because I'm off work at moment recovering from an op that I'm around to hear it.

Up til now they've been fab neighbours & they always but our little girl presents. Really don't want to make things worse.

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Original poster
icklemssunshine · 03/12/2013 13:41

*buy

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Misspixietrix · 03/12/2013 13:47

yes. call the police. If its loud as it usually is they might not suspect you could be someone across the street for example.

abbeynationall · 03/12/2013 13:57

I have been in that situation before , and would have liked for the neighbors to have called the police - he hid both phones so couldn't have called for help.

gaggiagirl · 03/12/2013 14:20

I have been in a situation where I really hoped the neighbour would call the police,just to give the person in question a horrible shock and maybe stop them from doing it again.

stickysausages · 03/12/2013 14:25

If it was in progress, then yes I'd call. I have done in the past, but they had a small child together :(