MIL has commented that she thinks I'm cruel to 6 year old dd, based on a few recent situations.
Firstly, dd was climbing on a stool in the shop (the sort they use to stack shelves) I told her she shouldn't be climbing on it and asked that she please get down. She went on to climb back on and fell off. She wasn't hurt or upset, I said: 'that's why you shouldn't be climbing on it' before asking if she was ok. MIL was practically running to pick her up and cuddle her and couldn't believe I'd reprimanded her.
Secondly, I have a spelling test app on my iPad. Dd uses it to practice then when she gets them all right she's allowed to play a game for twenty mins. MIL thinks it's mean to only allow 20 mins screen time per day and to have her do spellings first.
Finally, dd takes ages to wake up in the morning and to get ready. She comes to my room to get ready but will spend ten mins dancing with knickers on her head etc. Every school day she spends 10-15 mins singing on the toilet and it's started making her run late for school. I tried getting her up earlier, changing clocks etc but she just spent longer on toilet. I spoke to her and said she's spending too long singing on the toilet and she said it was only a couple of mins so I timed her then that evening I asked her to sit on a chair for the same llength of time to demonstrate how much time she was wasting in the morning. The next day she was on and off in a minute. MIL said this is cruel and controlling 
AIBU and a horrible mother?