This hasn't become a huge issue as yet but this year it has started to annoy me. My youngest brother married my SIL almost ten years ago. They had their first child about three years ago after trying for at least five. They now have two. Since DN's were born, she has rung up without fail about a month before Christmas and asked if "we can make Christmas all about the kids "and just buy presents for them (we have two). She rings up everyone to tell them this rather than just asking. I actually have no problems if she personally doesn't want to get a gift for the adults but my gripe is a) I've often done my Christmas shopping by then anyway and b)I actually do enjoy giving gifts to my brothers and parents, especially one brother who has no children but who always gives really lovely, thoughtful gifts especially to our kids. I suppose I could suck it up and just give them out later but I enjoy our family tradition of handing them out from under the tree after the dinner. SIL was a bit weirdly competitive when she first joined out family but has mostly mellowed out in that respect, especially after having my nephew and niece. I do like her but am feeling she's not really being fair about this and it's not really her place. I am 100% certain my brother doesn't ring her family up (large Italian family) and tell them who they can and can't give gifts to. AIBU?