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AIBU?

To be annoyed? Or am I being pathetic??

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2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 21:02

DD6 went to a birthday party this weekend and when I was dropping her off the party mum asked her what she would like to eat out of 3 options and what she'd like to drink out of Coke, Diet Coke, Fanta and Sprite. I said she's not really allowed/into fizzy drinks, party mum said fine she can have something else. DH picked her up and she was very happy as she'd had coke, I feel quite pissed off as we've got this far without going down the coke route and typically she loved it, I guess I need a grip as she's not a baby but it aggravates me. At least it wasn't diet coke I suppose, hate that crap

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whois · 01/12/2013 21:59

Do people really worry about things as insignificant as this? Is it a way of avoiding thinking about the real dangers in the world?

You pretty much. Get a grip OP, it's coke the drink not coke to snort. A one off drink of coke at a party isn't going to undo all your fantastic parenting FFS.

Only1scoop · 01/12/2013 22:00

pictish · 01/12/2013 22:00

Ah...you slay me with your sparkling wit.

Preciousbane · 01/12/2013 22:02

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junkfoodaddict · 01/12/2013 22:03

You do realise that she gave your daughter a COLA drink and not actually COKE???
It's a drink, fair enough not the healthiest, but really, you're worrying over a COLA drink?????? Do you really expect her to go through her entire life being shielded from everything deemed unhealthy?
Is she allowed to breathe our air or do you put her in some sort of mask and suit her up with purified air because I really do think there are other things to be worried about rather than a one-off, party drink.
YABVU.

pictish · 01/12/2013 22:03

I have a a five year old and a four year old and neither of them have ever had fizzy drinks - but only because neither of them like the bubbles. Our 12 yr old does though. Everything in moderation and all that.

WorraLiberty · 01/12/2013 22:04

Thing is if you make fizzy drinks/sweets etc the anti-Christ...instead of the occasional treat that they are, your DD will probably be far more interested in them than the rest of the class.

Teaching your kids about moderation is probably one of the best things you can do for them.

Floggingmolly · 01/12/2013 22:04

None of my kids have ever to my knowledge had carbonated drinks.
But then; when they go to parties I don't actually demand a copy of the menu in advance, so they may well have had when I wasn't looking.
It really isn't an issue for me.
They all eldest is 12 have perfect teeth, not a single filling between them.

Fakebook · 01/12/2013 22:04

Bloody hell. It's coke...not vodka. Even my one year old is allowed the occasional coke. I really don't get this whole melodramatics about children and fizzy drinks or cakes and sweets. It won't kill them to have it occasionally.

junkfoodaddict · 01/12/2013 22:04

Sorry whois crossed post.

mercibucket · 01/12/2013 22:05

6 is old enough to know what she is and isn't allowed to have

party parents will have been rushed off their feet. non important details (no allergies or religious objections) forgotten

you need to 'train' your dd better if it is that important to you. as parents do with, for instance, pork for religious reasons. or accept it's not that big a deal

2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 22:05

Phew you've set my mind at ease whois just when I thought all was lost along came you with reassurance.

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gobbynorthernbird · 01/12/2013 22:07

Your daughter could have refused the drink, after all, it takes two to Tango.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/12/2013 22:08

My DC aren't allowed Coke but DD had some at a party (I think they had a McD carry out and it was a general drinks on the table thing). She told me about it , said it was "quite nice" and that was it.
She hasn't drunk it since, no problem.

She's going on a school trip (and a McD) and there was a choice form to fill in.
Drinks were Coke/Diet Coke/Fanta.
But I suppose if anyone is that worried they can give their DC a bottle of water.

lougle · 01/12/2013 22:09

Aww don't worry, OP. If she had a 200 ml glass of coke, she only had 9 teaspoons of sugar in her glass

DoJo · 01/12/2013 22:09

Did you say she wasn't allowed them or wasn't into them? Because if it came across as more the latter, then it just sounds as though it's because of her preferences that she doesn't really drink them, then I can see why they wouldn't have tried to enforce it if she had decided she wanted one.

2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 22:10

She is allowed sweets just to stop you all worrying about her it's just coke I don't like as its such crap, I was slightly annoyed that they ignored me after they asked but as I said I thought I was being pathetic and needed a grip and now I'm hysterical and unconcerned about all the worlds ills

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2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 22:11

at gobby maybe a child that doesn't drink coke is just a FANTAsy

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2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 22:11

Good point DoJo

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nicky2512 · 01/12/2013 22:13

yaNbu. DD is 11 and only drinks water. This is by choice now that she is older. She doesn't like anything else! When smaller it would never have occurred to me to give my kids fizzy drinks. However, when DS was about 6 at a school barbeque the kids were all given cans of diet coke. I didn't make any fuss and let him have it, DD just got herself some water. Well, the shame. He was nearly in tears of joy! He had never had anything so good. He went on and on about it for ages. Realised then that totally not allowing something might make it too desirable so he now has a very occasional drink of it.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/12/2013 22:15

I put one of my perfect wisdom teeth (that had been extracted) in a glass of full fat Coke overnight to show my DC the results.

(This tooth was one that was impacted so hadn't even erupted through the gum)

It went all beige and fuzzy - my toooooth , my PERFECT tooth.
Ruined.
(Didn't even get a bloody £1 for it, had it removed pre DC)

Did they appreciate it?
Probably not

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2Tiredtocare · 01/12/2013 22:16

I think I'd feel better about it if she tried it and not liked it but she loved it, typical

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bluecheeseforbreakfast · 01/12/2013 22:17

Yabu, the party mum might have had children with real dietary requirements such as allergies or diabetes to consider. If she has to consider every parent's vague preference she would end up with much more of a job on her hands.

As you feel so strongly about your child not having coke I would mention it when you RSVP to parties in the future so the hosts can be prepared.

MapofTassie · 01/12/2013 22:18

As lougle said, she only had 9 teaspoons of sugar in the one glass - assuming that's all she drank.
As an aside, DH got a piece of lamb stuck in his throat recently - the hospital dissolved it by giving him a can of Coke to drink. Apparently the stuff is so acidic it can dissolve meat.
Did no-one do the experiment by putting dirty copper coins into Coke and bringing them out clean and shiny? What does it do to your insides?

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