To be annoyed? Or am I being pathetic??

[2Tiredtocare]

DD6 went to a birthday party this weekend and when I was dropping her off the party mum asked her what she would like to eat out of 3 options and what she'd like to drink out of Coke, Diet Coke, Fanta and Sprite. I said she's not really allowed/into fizzy drinks, party mum said fine she can have something else. DH picked her up and she was very happy as she'd had coke, I feel quite pissed off as we've got this far without going down the coke route and typically she loved it, I guess I need a grip as she's not a baby but it aggravates me. At least it wasn't diet coke I suppose, hate that crap

[2Tinsellytocare]

I would but on e again I've farmed her out to 'virtual strangers' aka school

[PerpendicularVincePies]

Are you sure Tinselly? I'd check her on an hourly basis just in case

I like your Christmas NN

[2Tinsellytocare]

Thanks perp and shiny. She doesnt seem to be suffering any hideous side effects

[PeppiNephrine]

How are potatoes bad for your teeth? I call bullshit

[PerpendicularVincePies]

I agree with Shiny, you don't seem hysterical at all Tired, and are taking the criticism in good humour.

YANBU to be a little irritated that your wishes for your child weren't taken into account. As Feline said, if something is important to you then people should respect that.

A can of coke certainly isn't the end of the world though, but I'm sure you know that

[InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream]

Blimey. It's a glass of coke at a party, not Agent Orange

[ShinyBauble]

Why are so many people telling the OP to stop being hysterical when she appears totally calm? There seem to be a lot of jangled pre-Christmas nerves on MN today

Instead of projecting, make your own threads!

[2Tinsellytocare]

Er word my DD has known her DD since they were 3 so hardly a virtual stranger, don't let the facts get in the way of your posting though will you

[BalloonSlayer]

My DCs didn't like fizzy drinks for ages. They wouldn't touch them.
DS1 was about 11 when he first started having them.

Now at 13 he seems almost addicted to Diet Coke and we have to lock it in the car or he will drink the lot.

It was amazing - went from one can now and then, to one a day, to "where has all the coke gone?" and finding all the empty cans stashed in his room in a matter of months.

TBH though caffeine doesn't seem to affect him much (extremely dozy individual at the best of times). He has food allergies so obviously has extreme reactions to some foods, yet colourings, sugar, caffeine don't even seem to affect him in the way they do me, which I think is odd.

Mind you, I think it is may possibly be just the teenagery over-indulgence behaviour rather than addiction. He doesn't get tetchy if there isn't any and has been known to mass-consume sweets/crisps as well.

[SaucyJack]

I don't like my DDs having caffeine either, but as Sprite and Fanta were both available I would've just chosen one of those instead.

The odd lemonade at a party really isn't a big deal.

[wordfactory]

If you leave your child with a virtual stranger, then you cannot expect them to adhere to your dietry constraints unless medical issues are involved; diabetics, allergies etc and even then it is an act of faith.

If you wantt o control your DC, then you must stay with her.

[freshsweetberry]

Coke is full of caffeine and really not good for kids at all! I understand it's a party and busy, but for things like this, where it could easily cause headache.heart palpitations i think they need to listen.

[diddl]

I'm with you to be annoyed, OP.

Doesn't anyone offer water??

[saintlyjimjams]

How forbidden is it? My kids didn't have fizzy drinks until quite old - I don't like them for kids, but they weren't expressly forbidden- & hated them for a long time because they tasted so odd. They would have asked for something else at a party and refused anything fizzy. Had fizzy drinks been forbidden I suspect they would have taken every party opportunity to guzzle them down.

Now they love fizzy drinks & will go straight for them at parties, but given it's not long before ds2 will be being offered alcohol at parties I can't get my knickers in a twist about it.

My advice would be to not ban anything unless there's a medical reason or its consumption would be illegal.

[Sparklymommy]

In all honesty I think you just need to calm down. Fruit juice is just as bad as coke for teeth. And if you listen to the dentist your children would die of malnutrition with the amount of things your not supposed to give them.

I understand op is pissed off. She expressly said no fizzy and was ignored. But in the grand scheme of things it really isn't that important.

[2Tiredtocare]

Isn't vodka made out of potatoes

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

How the dickens are potatoes worse than fizzy drinks
I know crisps are bad because they stick...................

[FelineExtraStrong]

But probably not worth following up, I meant to add.

[ThoughtsPlease]

Perhaps the Mum forgot when it came to handing out drinks, I expect she was busy.

Maybe when asked DD said 'coke please' so that is what she was given.

[FelineExtraStrong]

Hi 2tired.

Yanbu to be annoyed. You were assured that she would be given X but she was given Y against your express wishes.

The impact of the incident is probably minor, in this instance but I'd be a bit disgruntled that someone had not respected my choices. It may not be important to party mum, but it is important to you.

[starlight1234]

On the one hand YANBU ..she did ask..My DS is 6 and I never ask any parent what a child wants to eat..I ask the child...Policing drinks at a 6 year olds party would be bottom of my list unless there was a child with allergies.
Whilst NBU as she asked you also have to let it go IMO...As it is a party what they do elsewhere doesn't mean they expect to do it at home..My son tried fizzy orange once he loved it but fogot about 3 days later.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

We are at the stage now that DS 1 is 16 and went to a party recently where the girls were drinking vodka.Makes me long for the days where fizzy drinks seemed hardcore.

[CailinDana]

Oh and I have never liked fizzy drinks yet every molar and premolar in my mouth has a filling :(

[CailinDana]

Potatoes are far worse for your teeth than sugary drinks.

[bluecheeseforbreakfast]

2 tired, I was never given coke as a child and I had shockingly bad teeth, I think sometimes you get the unfortunate gift of crap teeth.

If you wanted to give your dd something fizzy that wasn't coke maybe fizzy elderflower would be a good occasional treat, or fizzy water with a dash of orange juice :)