to think this is ridiculous advice....

[BigRedDragon]

Been festering about this, not massively, just niggling but annoyed at health visitor and her unsolicited advice. I went to get dc2 weighed in the week. He is a big baby at nearly 28lbs at 6mths. She asked how often he fed overnight and I replied every 3 hours ish but as we co-sleep it wasn't a huge problem. She then went onto tell me she saw me feeding him whilst waiting and I shouldn't make so much eye contact or stroke his cheek whilst feeding him as I'm teaching him feeding is more than nourishment, he'll then feed to get attention. I reassured her that he got plenty of interaction and attention regardless of feeding and left.
Just been niggling me, I couldn't help but picture a mother taking this advice and ignoring her baby. I firstly found this annoying as I didn't ask for advice, I feed on demand happily, but I really found it the most ridiculous advice going, and sad in so many ways!

[2Tiredtocare]

Babies who are exclusively breast fed will just be the weight they were meant to be, just ignore her and be glad that he is your 2nd so you've been there before and you know you are right. Hate those bloody centime charts

[Gileswithachainsaw]

It is very bad advice to be recommending drilling milk feeds at six months. However I can see why she would be concerned about size. Both mine were three/approaching three before they weighed the same.

Dd was five before she reached the 3st mark that your Ds hit at 1.
You clearly breed sturdy babies :)

[Gileswithachainsaw]

Drilling? Dropping that should say

[SomePeopleAreIdiots]

You can't overfeed a breastfed baby. Listen to the OP, her ds1 was the same.

OP, my hv also suggested ds breastfed so much (not really into solids for months) as he got cuddles, attention then. I really think a lot of hvs only have a few set ideas that they try to fit to all the children they come across to answer any issues, rather than actually listening to the parent and acknowledging the big variety of personality, behaviour etc.

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

Feeding IS more than nourishment in nutritional terms. It's emotional nourishment too, which is incredibly important.

Please do complain about that HV's advice. Appalling.

[zatyaballerina]

If it was from overfeeding your older son would have continued to gain a huge amount of weight so your right not to get stressed about it if it's genuinely just the way they are. All kids are different.

[IWishYouWould]

OP my DC's were both big babies. DC2 has always been 98% for height and towers over other children. Always been two clothes sizes bigger than actual age. DH was the same weight at 6 months as your DC and also very tall. Nothing wrong with any of them.
Another vote for complaining. I do suspect it's our area you live in, the HV's are shocking with some of their 'advice'.

[wonderstuff]

Makes me so angry that HV give shit advice, to the point where we all 'smile and nod' they are graduates with a post-grad certificate, similarly qualified, and I imagine paid to teachers. If teachers gave advice based not on research and training, but their gut instinct, or even frequently ignored research and gave out conflicting advice, you would be straight on the case to the head. No other branch of nursing would act like this. Needs sorting IMO.

[2Tiredtocare]

My 6 year old doesnt weigh 3 stone yet but its all relative

[wonderstuff]

I got told by one HV to wean at 4 months because WHO advice was based on 'African babies' and I bloody believed her. Another told me to shout no at my 5 month old baby when she wriggled on the change mat, cos she needed to learn like, and a third told me if I didn't wean by 26 weeks at the latest I'd miss the 'weaning window' she looked dead serious as I scoffed at the idea of breast feeding until college if ds still wasn't interested in solids at 27 weeks..

[trashcansinatra]

Sounds a lot like the consensus is that health visitors add no value.

[HerrenaHarridan]

Babies are sooo different. 28lbs at 6 months is huge but ebf are not overweight.

My dd was 10lbs at 6 months. That is tiny. Ebf on demand.

I had the same problem in reverse.

Definitely don't stop loving your baby during feeds op.