Because I'm honestly not sure

[PaulMcGannsMistress]

I have mental health issues, have done since I was a teenager. I am in fact, bipolar. I'm on medication and have been stable for years now. I'm generally open about it on MN because there is a degree of anonymity and I have received support in the past about it.

Dd1 has been upset this week as someone said something nasty about MH issues and she stuck up for me. Today Dh was asked to come in and speak to a teacher about it. Fine, thinks, I, I want Dd1 supported at school, that's cool. But then they said 'Why didn't you tell us your wife had MH issues?'.

At which point I get a little cross - and think 'because it's actually none of your business'. AIBU? Because I honestly don't know. Do I have to inform my children's schools of my medical history?

And while I'm ranting, may also be worth pointing out that handling this kind of information very sensitively is essential, as is a trusting relationship between school and ALL parents that they can share deeply personal information safely if they choose to and that it will be respectfully and sensitively handled. Otherwise no parents will dare disclose even if they and their child desperately need support.

As a teacher I can see this from the other side. You may be coping really well but you might not be and school can offer a range of support and may be able to help not just your child but the family as a whole. We work with bang agencies divert , relateen access a range of additional funds to support students so while I see your point there will be other Mahoney as work all designed to support you

YANBU!!