aibu to think postman should not be changing tyres/ talking at length with people on his rounds?

[Nomorepat]

Waiting for an important letter which is dependent on what time I receive it today. So go for a stroll to see if postie is in area. There is he is in the next street changing some girl's tyre for her-I know this is not his car and ours is his last street. He then proceeds to chat to this girl for about 10 minutes, then another woman for about 5 minutes.

I am peed off about this. AIBU?

Nomore
If you hadn't of gone looking for your postie, which by the way is weirdly stalkerish you would be non the wiser and would of just excepted that your letter arrived at the time it did.

I just cannot understand why you are so arsey that your letter arrived 1/2 an hour later than if he hadn't of helped. Did that delay make such a difference?
Was the letter written in magic ink that would disappear by a certain time mission impossible style?

Out of interest OP (and apologies if this has been asked already as have only skimmed through). if your important letter had arrived on time so you could go and do whatever you needed to do and you had then stepped outside only to discover you had a flat tyre and the kind postie had offered to fix it would you have refused his help ?

OP, he is entitled to a break, just like anyone else, if he wanted to pop home for a 'quicky', why would that be a problem? I work in an office, I have popped out to sort my own car problems in work time before; the people who pay me have never objected. Seriously, I don't think anyone goes to work in the morning, does and says nothing outside their job description for 8 hours straight, and goes home. Do you?

(And disagree entirely with the comments upthread about Dubai; maybe it is like that in the new shiny expat enclaves, but it's not the city I've lived in, blinglessly, for almost 12 years)

Wow. This is still going?

We need a new Topic heading, IANBU, for people who aren't really asking a question.

Not read the whole thread. Actually think YANBU. He is being paid to do a job and should do it. He is not beign paid to be a generally helpful person in the community who does whatever needs doing, includign delivering the post.

If there is an emergency that he comes across on his rounds, it's nice that he's not so much of a jobsworth that he won't help. If the tyre change had been urgent - e.g. she had to get to a hospital appointment, then great and fine. But chatting for 10 minutes afterwards suggests it was not an emergency.

Oh dear OP what a life you must lead..... you seem to spend your time when not at work holding a stopwatch and timing your posties activities.... something not quite right there . Please do bear in mind that you also took up his valuable posting time by telling him what you thought about his kindness.

OP: AIBU
EVERYBODY: yes!!!
OP: no I'm not

May I respectively request that all posters send the OP new dummies via 1st class Royal Mail today so that they will hopefully arrive tomorrow, as she is at home, so that she can wait for important mail to replace all those that she has thrown out of her pram over the last couple of days.

I hope your important letter included a heart as you appear to have a swinging brick.

card
The OP received her letter around 15 minutes or so after he changed the tyre. It was not on a timed delivery so what difference did it actually make?
The postie is paid to do a job and the postie did do it. HE DELIVERED THE LETTER!!!

"Children often seek negative attention when they don’t receive enough of the positive kind. Although being scolded and punished is usually unpleasant, the child feels validated by this negative reinforcement and may seek more. This pattern often starts a cycle wherein a child’s disobedience and poor behavior escalates because he or she wants additional attention."

Poor OP clearly doesn't receive any positive attention.

cardamomginger Exactly, it was hardly an emergency.

Think too many people think that being postman is not a proper job but a kind of trivial job where he floats about helping people out.

Ironically, they're being disrespectful to postman everywhere because if I said to an IT consultant 'can't you fit in good deeds during your day?' they'd tell me that their job was far too important for that and while they'd love to...etc etc

I'm the one who is actually taking his job seriously here, but I'm the bad guy

No, people actually know what his job entails, and as long as he does it - there's no problem.

He did his job.

Nomore
You seem to ignore all the posters who disagree with you then you dive open armed on the odd one out of 300 that agrees with you!
You asked if you were being unreasonable the majority vote is YES accept it and move on.

You got your letter. The world didn't end.

My second ever .

Actual lol @ CaptainSinker @9.58 (which was not easy to explain to DS )

Excellent thread, loving it.

Faverolles did that same community whip round and write to post office in support of him? Sign a petition?

Anyway our post is erractic, i am lucky if it makes it into my post box and not the sqaut next door where I may never see it again.

Its really sad to cristise someone fixing a bike, as long as the post gets delivered I cannot see the problem.

As for time reliant mail, mail is mail, whoever set the time limit on you getting it was at fault.

Do you have a dog? If not, get one. Then it can bite the bastard.

I think the only person being disrespectful to the post man is you.

Oh and I also think any nice it consultant who looked out of his office window and saw someone struggling to change a tyre would go out and try to help if they were able to.

Kindness isn't defined by your job, but by your actions.

Postman Pat helps out with all kinds of s**t. YABU.

Anyone else still wondering what was in the letter?

Shit.

Only just read more of this thread ROFL at Wille's "you're going to have to wait a little longer op, he's got to find a lost toy first" [GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN]

That should have been

It's amazing how the OP (and now cardamom) haven't been able to grasp that the postman did his job. He wasn't helping people instead of doing it; he did that as well as doing it. It's really not a difficult concept.

Nor is the idea that he can use his break time however he likes: changing tyres, eating sandwiches, shagging his mistress. It really isn't any of my business. His wife can be pissed off about the mistress stuff, but it really isn't anything to do with me.

I am actually saddened that people like the OP exist. The whole 'road to hell is paved with good intentions' thing has now meant that I can only think of her as Grahame coats from Neil gaiman's anansi boys. Hopefully she's not actually that bad.

If you needed something delivered at a specific time, you should have paid extra for a guaranteed delivery service.

Suggesting that a postie shouldn't stop and help someone in need is dickish.

fluffaduck " is she grasping on to the 3 posts out of 300 that agree with her"

Yep

I expect she was waiting for the Daxon catalogue supplement, its very exciting you know

So is the gist of it that the op was out looking for the postie wow I cant remember the last time anything that important came through the mail...how traditional

OP, you're actually starting to sound a bit deranged now. Bet Christmas is fun in your house.