to of felt embarrassed & sad?

[MrsPeeWee]

I will try to keep this short if possible
I am probably overreacting because of my depression/anxiety, but my tummy is still in knots.

Earlier today, after DS finished school, I took him to his swimming lesson.

Once I got there and DS was in the pool, I walked round to the waiting area where we all watch our DC swim. Whilst in there, two children around 8? started shouting things like -
"look at that fat lady, oh my god shes such a fat lady." infront of absolutely everyone in the room. (about 30 people) I was in complete shock. I gained a few stone over the past couple of years, but I am not huge. I felt completely humiliated. I know children say silly things, especially in front of their friends, but I think my main issue (after thinking it over) was the fact that the childrens mother didn't say a single thing. She never asked them to stop.

I feel absolutely ridiculous even posting this, because I allowed something an 8 year old child said to me, get to me. I just can't shake how awful I now feel. I just want to bury my head. I know for certain my DS would never shout out at someone like these other children did, which is why I also felt shocked.

Please tell me I am being silly.

You're not being silly. What rude children!!!!

You poor thing! A least you have raised your child much better that those other boys!

I don't know what else to say, I'm overweight myself (a lot) and I know that awful embarrassed feeling you describe.. It's awful..

Have you someone that can give you a big hug?

Xxx

You are not being silly.
Someone should have told them to apologise to you.

You are not being silly. That is rude!

What an unpleasant family. I hate to think what life is like behind their four walls if that's what they (including their mother) are like in public.

You're not being silly and Yes - it is sad. Think what they'll be like in 10 years. It will likely be train crash territory. (And if it wasn't your weight, it would been someone or something else.)

Did your DS hear or notice?

Well, I don't think you'd be human if you weren't upset by that, tbh. It's other people being nasty to you out of the blue and regardless of their age, that's going to upset anyone, although to what degree is, of course, dependant on personality and circumstances. The mother was very wrong not to have immediately told them to stop and not to be so rude.

I'm so sorry that this happened to you, and particularly as a fellow sufferer of depression, I can certainly empathise with your embarrassment and sadness.

You are not being silly, I'd have been gutted.

Some people are thick, rude, idiots and their poor children don't stand a chance.

The mum was a cow. Where do you think the kids get it from?

Yanbu!! What horrible little children, I don't know any kids who would say something so rude. Shame on that mother for not telling them off.

That's horrible, you're not being silly at all. My DS1 is 7 and if he'd said something like that I'd have been ashamed of him

Oops, apologises for my title - To have !!! Auto correct (believe it or not)

Yes, thank you. DS gave me some cuddles before bed, not that he knows why though, thankfully. DH is away working, which is why I am wallowing in it.

Are you sure they meant you?

If they did and the mother said nothing they are horrid little brats and that woman should be ashamed!

Big glass of wine for you

Unfortunately, I am sure. They were looking and pointing at me, as if they wanted a reaction? Their mother just sat, glanced at me and carried on playing with her phone.

How rude and how ignorant of their mother. Had this happen to me at my Mum's care home , but was said by a lady with Altzheimers. So I ignored it but still felt upset.

I'm afraid that I can think of family dynamics where the mother is - say - cowed and not simply uncaring. Very difficult.

Have a glass of wine MrsPeeWee and thank goodness that you don't have a family like that.

Shame on those children, but especially shame on their mother. You can lose weight if you wish, but she'll still be an arse. Hope you are OK.

Thank you all, so very much.

God, how horrible for you. That mother should be completely ashamed of herself.

MrsPeeWee I want to give you a huge and extremely squishy hug and I don't even care if that means I'm going to get drummed out of MN.

Their mother should be ashamed of herself.

What rude children.

I have no doubt that those children will be bullies at school too. That their mother did nothing but continue to play with her phone, despite having noticed what was happening, is appalling and depressing.

That is horrid, you aren't being silly at all and its understandable to be upset. Someone once shouted " run, fat girl" at me from a car while u was jogging. It took me a month to go for another run. This sort of thing sucks. Hope you are feeling bit better.

Ohh you poor thing. I had my daughters BFF say "your a little bit fat arnt you".

My kids think fat is a swear word and it's banned in this house lol

You are not being silly and no one could blame you for feeling embarrassed and sad.

This a spiteful and nasty little incident that you didn't deserve.

I know it's difficult but try to think of all the reasons you're fab and of all the people who love you and why. What this unpleasant mother and horrible children said means nothing.