AIBU to stop visiting a friend who's mantra is 'if it's brown flush it down, if it's yellow let it mellow'?

[RoseRedder]

I feel really uncomfortable around people's/my own toilet usage in general.

I can only poo in my own house, hate the idea if I need a wee that people can hear me so tend to turn on the cold water tap when I go.

Friend only flushes her toilet after a poo, so if visting and I need a wee I'm more often than not faced with dead wee already in there.

This makes me open and the lid then gag and puts me right off of using it.

Also I could never leave a toilet without flushing.

I'd like to know if I'm being odd and this is a normal thing that people do, or do most people flush?

Just to add friend is in England and is metered for water, I'm in Scotland and we don't have water meters, so I am wondering if this is the reason, although she sites it more on a 'saving the planet' reasons

We don't flush every time we wee. The loo does not end up horrible, it's just about not taking it to an extreme - so we flush one in three or thereabouts. Also, most people use far too much paper, which is part of the problem. And of course we do flush every time if we have guests, that's just common courtesy.

Wasting perfectly good drinking water just feels wrong to us.

wasting perfectly good drinking water just feels wrong to us

You helping yourself from the bog?

I don't always flush wees if I'm home alone to save water but certainly would if I had visitors. It seems a bit much to stop visiting her however. Either have a word with her or just flush before using the loo.

Even if I didn't flush every time I would always make sure I flushed before a visitor arrived!

No Feminine, she is not drinking from the toilet. She means that the water in your system has undergone the exact same cleaning and purification system as drinking water. This is what feels wasteful when there are people who don't have clean drinking water.

I know that hester

I should have placed a friendly

Not sure what I think about this - just had never considered people might not flush every time except maybe at night. Mumsnet is such an education. Off to ponder my flushing habits...

Some people just enjoy having a house that smells of piss.

It's only wee.

It's in the bog,it won't hurt you.

The thought of someone running the tap so you can hear them wee makes me feel a bit sick.

We also follow the 'let it mellow' and mostly use the half flush unless absolutely necessary.

Clean water is precious to us though herein Australia and very expensive.

Sorry Feminine. Massive ironyfail. Have this on me.

we never flush overnight and will go several wees during the day before flushing too, unless we have guests. It only smells if DS does one of his special concentrated wees before breakfast and leaves it all day while we are out.

I really agree about it being awful that we flush away more than we drink every day while millions are dying from water borne diseases. we don't know how lucky we are.

Hate wasting drinking quality water.

well perhaps you should scoop up the toilet water to drink insteaD OF RUNNING YOUR COLD TAP IN THE KITCHEN

oops caps lock, my apologies, sorry

surely empty the potty harticus before expecting someone else to piss in it?

No! People shared one potty - they didn't trot down the garden to empty it after each wee.

There were 7 people sharing the pee bucket on my boat.
Every morning it would be emptied into the river/canal.
Just pure wee mind you - no poo or bog roll.

Go into bathroom, don't look, flush, then go to the toilet and flush again.

7 people, & grown up people?

That must have smelled

Where did you keep the pee bucket on the boat?

*Hate wasting drinking quality water.

well perhaps you should scoop up the toilet water to drink insteaD OF RUNNING YOUR COLD TAP IN THE KITCHEN*

well that's just daft Rose, and well you know it. there is a huge difference between scooping water from a loo and using it from the tap. But there is also no need to run 9+ litres of clean water straight down the loo every time you do a wee.

I have friends who do this.

I always pre flush and flush when I'm done too.

Nope it didn't smell - it had a lid on it.
And it was kept in the 3ft by 3ft space we ironically called the bathroom.

Never been camping Rose?
Far easier to wee in a bucket than hobble your way to some stinky toilet block on the other side of a muddy field.

I really don't think you need to run the cold water while your weeing though, that sounds very wasteful.

DH sometimes does this if he goes to pee in the night. He says he doesn't want to wake the children by flushing. If I'm first in the bathroom in the morning it makes me gag.

Wow, there are some seriously OCD anal people on MN!

We don't flush wees. Or loo isn't stinky. We don't not flush because of the money but because we care about the environment and don't want to waste resources processing more water than necessary.

And it really doesn't matter. It is only wee. Seeing on top of wee doesn't hurt you! Seriously! :rollseyes:

*weeing

Dh only flushes after a shit, I flush maybe one piss in three. I clean the toilet daily. I used to be like you (could only shit at home, hated being heard doing a piss) but I went to uni where I had to share with strangers and soon learnt not to care. Everyone goes to the toilet, it's nothing to be embarrassed about. I do make sure the toilet is flushed and clean if I have visitors though.