AIBU to stop visiting a friend who's mantra is 'if it's brown flush it down, if it's yellow let it mellow'?

[RoseRedder]

I feel really uncomfortable around people's/my own toilet usage in general.

I can only poo in my own house, hate the idea if I need a wee that people can hear me so tend to turn on the cold water tap when I go.

Friend only flushes her toilet after a poo, so if visting and I need a wee I'm more often than not faced with dead wee already in there.

This makes me open and the lid then gag and puts me right off of using it.

Also I could never leave a toilet without flushing.

I'd like to know if I'm being odd and this is a normal thing that people do, or do most people flush?

Just to add friend is in England and is metered for water, I'm in Scotland and we don't have water meters, so I am wondering if this is the reason, although she sites it more on a 'saving the planet' reasons

If you know they tend not to flush, just flush as soon as you go in without opening the lid.

Presto! No wee, and no problem!!

What a silly thing to stop visiting over.

Go in, lid down, flush, wee, flush, wash hands, come out.

If she says anything just say " I know, but I can't.." And be honest in a nice way.

If it was me, I would say " do you mind if I flush before? Its just I won't be able to pee otherwise and I fear for your naice sofa:)"

I wouldn't be able to use the toilet either tbh. I go nuts in my house if the kids don't flush after themselves. I don't want to see wee in the toilet when i go thanks!

We can't afford to flush after every wee.

Bloody ridiculous in 2013, but that's a water meter for you!

YANBU How gross! And smelly.

We are metered. There are 4 of us in the house, and up to 10 children every day for approx. 3 hours. We all flush every time. The 4 of us bath or shower daily, the washing machine is on daily, and I use water for water play.

And our metered bill is still less than we used to pay on the old rateable value bill.

I'd level with her if you really have issues with it. Take the next opportunity, like Lavender says.

Personally though I don't have a problem with leaving pee in the loo/going if there's already old pee in there, and I agree that something like cat pee on the floor is not comparable to pee in the lavvy.

I don't always flush because for some reason it affects the water pressure throughout the rest of the house for the next 10 mins or so. I do drink a lot of water though and my wee is usually pretty colourless so the only giveaway is a sheet of tissue in the bowl.

I would always flush if we had guests and wouldn't care if someone particularly wanted to flush with abandon. If you have issues with it, do a double-flush.

Your friend is saving the planet and not wasting water. You on the other have has issues with toilets. Can only poo in your own house? Do you ever go on holiday?

Cat wee on the floor is neat urine on a surface someone may walk through. Wee in the toilet is not.

Some of you are very lucky you are not on low incomes in the SW with a meter, as your water bills with that kind of consumption could easily go over £1000 annually. It makes you very careful about your useage.

I'm sure leaving it in there makes the toilet stain. Our toilet was always white and clean until dcs, then we stopped flushing over night, now it's always stained (ie I clean it, but it stains more quickly, so I clean it again...). I must waste a lot of money on cleaning products!

But if you wee on top of old wee isn't there a splash risk?

Possibly limescale deposits Autumn - clean smooth ceramic bowls don't stain because there's nothing for anything to cling onto - bleach will whiten the surface but leave it rough so it just stains again. If you regularly descale the toilet then it shouldn't stain.

If it's just me and DP, and some guests who I know do the same at their homes, then I don't flush wee. If I'm having most guests over though, I do tend to flush.

I don't flush unless I have to and I encourage my 4 yr old to do the same.
I do expect DC to wash hands though.

Hate wasting drinking quality water.

That's what's really disgusting to my mind, when you think about others on this planet dying because they don't have clean water to drink!

And don't get me started on chucking litres of vile bleach products down the loo!

Only ever heard of doing this during the last drought in Australia where there was a finite amount of water in the water tank, and it was yuck then for all the reasons above. So out of necessity I would do it, not by choice in the UK! Newer toilets and half flush mechanism save water, alternatively putting something in the cistern to reduce the volume available for the next flush.
(They used to say a brick but I think lately something non porous like a bottle of water with some sand inside to weigh it down)

Surely if you know she doesn't just flush before you use the loo. I drink a hell of a lot of water so am constantly peeing (tmi sorry), I don't flush unless others are in the house (so 9-5). My toilet is very clean and doesn't smell like pee, probably because I clean it at least twice a day. I have 'ishoos' about cleanliness but also about waste and makes me very uncomfortable to think of the water I get through daily.

I don't flush overnight if I have a wee (so as not to wake others) but I always flush in the day! I think it's vile to just leave it there. Human waste is waste, whatever colour or form it comes in and it shouldn't be left festering in the bowl for everyone else to see. Gross!!

Genuine questions to the 'Let it Mellow' brigade:how much does each flush cost? Is it a lot? Are we talking 1p or 10p or £1?

That's disgusting. I couldn't bear not to flush. We also have a stupid toilet which is supposed to be economically friendly and frequently needs far more flushes than the old one.

Yes tryingteacher!!! Just what i was thinking!!

I would flush wee flush.

I'd love to see how some people would have coped when you had to piss in a potty and trot down the garden down to an outside loo.

I lived on a boat for years and we'd pee in a bucket.

Get a grip people - it is only wee.

for those who you who are non flush for a pee

Does your toilet not just end up a stinky hole with toilet paper floating about that has then be wee'd on?

but you would surely empty the potty harticus before expecting someone else to piss in it?

No Rose. Because you clean it regularly as well. And you also keep the lid closed. And crucially, you don't bend down and sniff it :)