To want an apology from Vomit Friend.

[Blithereens]

Party on Saturday night, a very new friend missed her train and asked if she could stay over. I said yes, and made up the sofabed. Woke up later hearing strange noises and surmised she was being sick. I heard her being sick in the bathroom, I think maybe in the kitchen (both these places I bleached crazily as soon as she'd gone!) but I didn't realise she had thrown up all over the sofabed.

She had made some attempt at cleaning it herself, but the sofabed stinks (although I got some good tips over on the Housekeeping topic to try) and a number of our books are totally ruined. I can't afford to the replace the sofabed, and the particular books she has chosen to boak all over were gifts to DH.

All she has said about it is, "Well, this is embarrassing." She didn't tell me to what extent, and as I sit on the floor wearing rubber gloves picking vomit out of every crevice in my spare room, I can't help but feel rather narked that she hasn't said sorry! If I've been ill at other people's houses in the past (and always IN THE BLOODY TOILET) I've fallen over myself to apologise, offer to pay any cleaning bill, etc.

WIBU to email her and politely ask if she has anything to say about it?

^^I would be incandescent with rage.

This type of thing would be a friendship dealmaker for me. It is one thing to get that drunk that you can't make it to the toilet but to not clean up after yourself and replace anything that you have permanently ruined is disgusting behaviour.

When I was younger I had a party at my house and invited some college friends and (very randomly) one of our very odd tutors. He got totally bladdered and was one of the last to leave. Before he went he used the loo upstairs. When my boyfriend went up the guy had obviously had a very bad toilet episode ( 'no. 2' - ahem) but had somehow completely missed the bowl and it was all over the seat and the floor. Instead of clearing it up he'd picked up the bottle of toilet duck and liberally squeezed bright green toilet cleaner all over the place.
My boyfriend earned huge brownie points from me as he cleaned it all up himself so I wasn't subjected to the horror firsthand. Whatever else went wrong in our relationship after that I'll still always be grateful to him for dealing with that particular situation.

Update: I think perhaps the smell is losing the battle. I keep running in there and sniffing the cushions like a mad woman! Unfortunately the sofabed isn't the kind with a removal cover so I couldn't even put that in the machine. If I have to replace it it'll be the whole thing!

Still no word. I am going to give her until tomorrow and then I am going to send something based on ThenSheSaid's email.

I do have a bit of a tendency to be unforgiving, whereas DH would apologise to his hangman for the inconvenience, I swear! So I do appreciate the validation here. Nice to know it really is revolting and outrageous, not just me!

OMG Hercule why are people so gross??

< not envy.
Poor you. I have sick phobia (can't even type the V word!) so it would make me want to move out. You are NBU and must be furious.

Agree with all who have said to send her the bill. If she'd have done it in her own home, it's unlikely that she'd have left the same mess. She would have cleaned it properly/ replaced.

Mucky bugger.

My grandma says 'slut' about herself when she hasn't done her ironing or dishes or something. "Oh I'm such a slut!"
I know what context she's using it in but it still makes me feel a bit odd!

Boak, Vomit Friend owes you an apology and cleaning time/funds.

I've only ever heard slut being used in the casual-sex sense. Had no idea it also related to cleanliness. Nasty word either way.

Bicarbonate of soda is meant to be good to get rid of smells. No that is a dealbreaker

she should pay for professional cleaning of the sofa (or replacing it!), replacing books and a cleaner too!

Ugh, poor you Blithereens! Vomit smell lingers....

Once I was offered a ride to the airport (45 mins away) with some colleagues and just as we were about to get in the car, the person said, "oh sorry, it smells a bit funny, the kids threw up in the car over the weekend". WTF? Why did you offer a ride - the smell was overwhelming.

We had the windows down all the way to the airport.

Well? What did vomit friend say?

People are gross.

Could she still have been a bit drunk when she left, and not realised what a mess she had left behind?

I know there has been the odd occasion I have puked (in the loo in my own house) and thought I had done a good job of cleaning up after myself, only to realise in the cold, sober light of day, I hadn't at all!

OP - please make sure you come back and update in a day or so. Please.

So often we never hear the follow up. I, for one, would love to know how things panned out and whether you got your sofa cleaned by your friend. Oh and whether the friendship will withstand the Vom Trauma.

Another one waiting for an update!