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Pink Teapot for a boy

33 replies

Breadrollsbuns · 23/11/2013 15:56

AIBU to think that it's perfectly acceptable to buy DS1 a pink teapot set for Christmas as I think he'd really like playing with it? DH is against me buying it as it's pink and 'girlie'...

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SugarPlumpFairy3 · 23/11/2013 15:59

Of course yanbu. My Dts plays with my dtd's pink teapot and nothing seems to have happened to him yet nor do I expect it to.

Shakirasma · 23/11/2013 15:59

Your DH needs to grow up. If you think your son will love it then buy it. Does your DH worry your son will catch The Gay from pink and girlie stuff?

Shakirasma · 23/11/2013 16:00

And wtf is pink, or are teapots "girlie"?

Shonajoy · 23/11/2013 16:01

Of course it's fine. My ds aged three regularly wore a tutu to the shops, with his wellies. We have pictures we showed him recently, and omg he was mortified lol

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Breadrollsbuns · 23/11/2013 16:02

Ha, no shakirasma, he's not that bad, just stuck in a gender-stereotyping rut I think!

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Shakirasma · 23/11/2013 16:03

Bless, show him the right way OP

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Breadrollsbuns · 23/11/2013 16:04

Love it shonajoy, maybe I'll pick up a tutu too!

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FuzzyWuzzywasaWoman · 23/11/2013 16:12

No YANBU at all pink is just a colour, although, I did buy my boys a Sock Monkey metal tea set which has more of a "boy" design and they still play with it now at nearly 4 when other pink "girly" items we have are being cast aside.

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Breadrollsbuns · 23/11/2013 16:13

Just ordered it, I shall wrap it in paper with fairies or princesses on it, just to emphasise my point Grin

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nancerama · 23/11/2013 16:18

I spent ages looking for a non-pink teapot for DS (found a nice yellow one in ELC). I felt like a right numpty when I got home and found DH making me a cup of tea using our pink teapot. Why I got so hung up on a colour, I don't know.

ReallyTired · 23/11/2013 16:18

Pink is a colour and centuries ago it was considered a boy's colour in the 19th century!

MrsDeVere · 23/11/2013 16:24

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mitchsta · 23/11/2013 16:28

YABU to buy any child - boy or girl - anything pink. I'm sick of the sight of pink stuff - it's bloody everywhere!!!

Caitlin17 · 23/11/2013 16:30

Absolutely fine.

MimsyBorogroves · 23/11/2013 16:30

My DSs most played with toy is a pink tea set.

He's fine.

SugarHut · 23/11/2013 17:16

Hmmmm...if it's one you like, and not specifically one that DS has shown a liking for, then I would probably not get it if I knew it was winding my DP up. Your DP is of course being silly...but if solely pink bugs him, why not just buy a red one, or a blue one, or a yellow one etc? DS is not going to pay any attention whether it's pink or leopard print.

FixItUpChappie · 23/11/2013 17:18

My 3 year old is getting a tea set too....hard to find a gender neutral one. That would only be for our own odd gender sensibilities though - he won't give two hoots that it is pink.

Floggingmolly · 23/11/2013 17:29

...it's acceptable to buy a pink teapot as I think he'd really like playing with it. So he hasn't actually asked for it, then?
There's nothing wrong with pink, but as he'd probably enjoy playing with a green one just as much I think you're trying a little too hard to be pc and making it an issue where it really isn't.
If he'd actually requested a pink one I wouldn't blink.

PickleSarnie · 23/11/2013 17:46

YABU. He will catch the gay obviously.

TheGinLushMinion · 23/11/2013 17:49

It's just a colour & your DH is being daft.

Mondayschild78 · 23/11/2013 18:18

It is hard to get one that isn't pink I found although I did get a set from ELC in primary colours for DS (it was more attractive to me anyway, I'm not a massive fan of pink). However, if there had been a pink set I preferred I would have got it for him so if it's the one you like the most then I cannot see how that is unreasonable.

KatAndKit · 23/11/2013 18:23

My DS is getting the ikea kitchen plus play food plus hopefully a teaset from one of his aunts. He sees DH cooking more than me anyway and grown, straight men also make cups of tea. Making tea is not a girlie activity. Unless your DH thinks women should be waiting on men in which case he has an even bigger problem. No need to get a pink teapot though. Real life ones are usually not pink. Get a teaset in a different colour. Not that boys should not play with pink toys, just a bit of a compromise.

Bakingtins · 23/11/2013 18:29

I wouldn't buy a pink tea set for a girl. I think all the pink stuff around is hideous. No problem buying a tea set for a boy though. My DS wants a yellow princess dress from Santa!

TheDoctrineOfWho · 23/11/2013 18:33

YANBU buying your DS a light red teapot.

Bloob · 23/11/2013 18:36

I just bought ds this

He ADORES it :o

I probably wouldn't have bought it in pink had their been another colour option - not because he's a boy, I bought dd primary colours if possible. But I am completely unfazed. Irritating that its aimed at girls so clearly though.

I don't dress ds in pink / buy pink on purpose because I think that's rather overstating the point, but if its more convenient etc then I have no problem with it!