To think I am married to a total tw@t?

[wandymum]

So he comes home this evening. Always works late, always grumpy after a long day at work.

Tonight no exception. I tread carefully. After supper we sit down together on sofa. I ask how work was. He gives dismissive response. I ask for more detail (i'm no Paxman just asked generally what was wrong) and get both barrels so leave him to it.

He then follows me in to kitchen shouting if I'm upset it's my own fault because I should notice when he is in a bad mood and know not to speak to him.

I told him to feck off in no uncertain terms.

Is it unreasonable to expect that if he comes home in such a wozzie that he can't deal with polite conversation he shouldn't come home at all?

He sounds like a total dick and you shouldn't put up with it. Sorry OP.

He is a twat. My Ex behaved in a similar way.

Having to walk on eggshells around your partner isn't normal. being told to stop whinging when you're upset while he can sulk and shout and be nasty, isn't normal.

Yes he's behaving like a twat, and once again I'm agog at the number of posters who'd be willing to put up with that kind of shit, and not only that, but blame you for his shitty behavior.

Oh sweetheart this brings back memories. I bet his bad mood is reserved for you and the kids,not his co workers or friends. A house should not be ruled by one persons mood.

I always worry about lots of marriages when reading these threads, as well as the one in the OP. Utterly shocking how some people live, and how some others will normalise it.