To withdraw DD from being weighed at school?

[SeaDevilscanPlay]

DH thinks I am making a big fuss about nothing.

I refused consent for DD to be weighed at school as I don't think its neccesary. I didn't make a fuss, just ticked the box saying that I did not give consent.

[Sirzy]

Being weighed once is hardly making a big thing of being weighed or making it seem normal though. I can't see why it would be any issue as a one off thing

DS is 4 and weighed and measured every 3 months at the hospital, I doubt he even realises what is happening and certainly has no idea what the numbers mean!

[JennyOnAPlate]

It's your decision of course, and I completely understand your point of view. Unfortunately though your dd will probably be aware that everyone else is getting weighed and will wonder why she isn't! I found it easier just to go with the crowd and let it happen.

[Greentriangle82]

Yanbu we did the same

[Jossysgiants]

YANBU. I have done the same because I object to the incessant bloody interference. In addition i didn't get a clear sense from the form of what the exact objectives are of this exercise - picking up problems, statistics, some other reason? So I opted the children out.

[ProfPlumSpeaking]

What is your concern? I can't see what harm it would do her and generally speaking it is not a good idea to single out your child for special treatment at school unless there is a good reason for it. If you think it a bad idea for ALL children then lobby the school about changing their policy.

[ICameOnTheJitney]

Well said Hels

[ICameOnTheJitney]

Oh. I see this is the OP's first post.

[McPie]

ICameOnTheJitney I would rather have an Extraordinarily precious attitude than have my children think that their perfectly healthy body is wrong just because they don't fit exactly into a scale that was devised years ago!

[SeaDevilscanPlay]

Its just my Doctor Who name change

[Pooka]

I've refused consent for dd.

I know that she is within healthy bmi - weighed and measured recently.

With me, I think it is a throwback to when I was weighed and measured at 10. Accompanied by a medical in my knickers. My mother was told I could do with losing half a stone. I was (know from looking at notes) within normal bmi as is measured today. Had eating disorder for some time. I only had the medical because my mum had ticked a box saying I had occasional headaches!

Anyway. Have told dd she is in healthy range and that's that.

[Pooka]

Incidentally, is year 6 weigh in I'm referring to.

[KeepingUpWithTheJonses]

I don't see why anyone would object.

The only negative impact on a child would be if YOU as parent discussed the results with them. The act of being weighed is not negative - again, it is only negative if it is construed as such to the child.

There are many people who are incapable of realising by themselves that their child is overweight. I have heared (in rl) people describe their overweight child as 'big for his age' , 'a growing lad' , 'big boned' etc. Descriptions of chubby 5/6 year olds.

If your child (past the age of 3 when baby weight has gone) is 'chubby' - then there is sonething wrong with their lifestyle, either the food you feed them or the exercise you give them the opportunity to participate in.

[intitgrand]

In my DDS class (Y3/4) recently all the children had to go out in 2s and 3s to be weighed by the Y1/Y2 class as part of their maths work.I was not asked for my permission and nor was my DD. although she is only 8 She is competitive gymnast and a waif but is constantly worried about getting too heavy

[confusedabouted]

I withdrew mine from the health check in reception,i dont see the point of it,i can see why are not over or underweight,they have lots of energy and eat well.If they have hearing or sight problems then someone will notice and they can get tested then.

[sOODdragon]

My problem is that I dont want my DD thinking that being weighed is normal, or that thinking about how much you weigh is important.

All three of mine were weighed and none of them mentioned it nor developed a fascination with their weight. I think you are over reacting if that is your reasoning.

You can consent or not though - your choice.

[izzybiz]

Ds didn't even think about the fact he'd been weighed, he came home excited about the fact he'd worn funny glasses!

[Sirzy]

If they have hearing or sight problems then someone will notice and they can get tested then.

Here the sight tests are done at pre-school age. DS had his a few months ago, I didn't think there was any problems yet an issue was picked up on and he was referred to the ophthalmologists which means it can be monitored.

I wouldn't assume that things will always be noticed unless someone is specifically looking for a problem

[ICameOnTheJitney]

McPie well if it didn't who on EARTH would TELL them?? You'd surely just change their diet!

[TEEARDIS]

Even if this wasn't a name change, why on earth does it matter if it's the OP's first post?

Honestly, some of you go looking for trolls every fucking where.

And, due to the ability to name change, it being a first post proves nothing anyway.

This is why HQ doesn't allow troll hunting.

[Sidge]

Children are weighed and measured in Reception and Y6 as part of the National Child Health Measurement Programme. Reception children are also offered simple sight and hearing tests.

These are part of a screening programme - in the same way that women are offered smears and mammograms. They are not carried out BY schools but IN schools - the data is collected by School Health Teams. The results are confidential and not shared with school. Children that are identified as needing further investigations or input are then followed up by School Health. This may mean referral to an optician, audiologist or potentially to a dietitian or growth clinic following consultation with parents.

I was a School Nurse for a while and monitored many children who were found to be in need of further intervention.

[LambChopsRarePlease]

YANBU

I don't see why school would need/want to do this.

[McPie]

ICameOnTheJitney I can see your point as I would not tell them but I really do cannot for the life of me trust the scheme sadly.
Plus there is no amount of food in this world that could make my youngest put on weight and I would hate for it to be escalated to hospital investigations for a child who is just "normal" for his genetic makeup.

[elliegoulding]

A friends daughter is morbidly obese, f refers to her as 'stocky', no-one has dared challenge her. She needs challenging :( Im not offering shes a fighty bastard

[bababababoom]

My children don't go to school, so I've had their sight / hearing checked at the optician (yes, they offered hearing tests too!).