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AIBU?

To not move DD into a bed yet?

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DoctorRobert · 21/11/2013 12:17

DD is 2.8 and still in her cot. I thought that this was normal (PFB), until reading something elsewhere which suggested most children are in beds by now and so I'm beginning to doubt what we're doing/planning to do.

She sleeps well and has never attempted to climb out - when she wakes in the morning she chats to herself until we get her up, so is perfectly happy in there. We're not planning anymore children so don't need to use the cot for a baby. We've not started potty training yet (but imagine that she would still wear nappies at night to begin with anyway?) know sod all about potty training

We will be moving house next year, not sure when exactly but she will be somewhere between 3.3 and 3.9 when we do. Assuming that she continues to be happy in the cot, WIBU to wait until we move to get her a bed? If there any particular reason a child needs to be in a bed before 3?

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heymammy · 21/11/2013 14:50

The first time dd2 slept in a bed was during a holiday to Cornwall. She had her 3rd birthday during that holiday! Seeing as she managed so well in the bed on hols we changed her cot to a bed when we got home

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 21/11/2013 15:59

We moved dd at 3.1 but only because her baby brother was due a month later so we were moving her rooms and the furniture would only fit that way!

monicalewinski · 21/11/2013 16:15

You can just take a side off to make a 3 sided bed until you move and get a proper bed.

It's just a little bit more grown up for her, and easier for you to get her in and out.

MummyPig24 · 21/11/2013 16:17

Yanbu. As long as she is happy and comfortable then there is no reason to move her.

Ds never got out of his cot. He stayed there till he was 2.8 and dd needed his cot. Dd hated the cot and slept much better in a single bed at 21 months.

killpeppa · 21/11/2013 16:21

I dream of my 21month ds1 still being caged AHEM-in a cot

but sadly he is a climber

HappyJoyful · 21/11/2013 16:32

DD is 2.11 and still in cot.. Bizarrely she's never tried to climb out, and sleeps well in it and it has suited us as in a small cottage the stairs are risky and there's a step out of the room and then you'd be down the stairs so I've been reluctant to do the move to bed for thought of her falling down stairs (we've never had a stair gate)

Have however, just got a 'big girls bed' as she's been commenting she wants one and the room is in need of 'change' make over so seemed to all make sense to do it in one go.

For what it's worth - got a pretty Ikea toddler one off ebay - worth a look if you can't afford new one. Also, I know some friends as they had a space who didn't bother with a toddler bed and went straight for a single as was cheaper.

bababababoom · 21/11/2013 16:35

I wouldn't personally, as she's not a baby and doesn't need a cot, but each to their own and it won't harm her.

shrunkenhead · 21/11/2013 17:26

My dd got her"big girl" bed for her 3rd birthday and looked too little in it even then! A lot of purple seem eager for their little ones to grow up/moving them into beds too soon. There's no rush.

DragonMamma · 21/11/2013 17:34

YANBU

My DS is 2.8 and he just went in to a bed after filling his cot. He previously slept all night without a peep and after a holiday in a bed where he did fine in one we took the plunge.

It's a nightmare, he's wandering around all night, climbing in to our bed, lying on the floor etc. He was ok initially but this wandering started soon after he realised he was no longer caged. It's driving us mad!

valiumredhead · 21/11/2013 17:43

Dragon-stair gate across his door will contain him

valiumredhead · 21/11/2013 17:45

Shrunken-some kids get their leg over the side of the cot really early, it's really unsafe so have to go into a bed. Ds was in a single bed at 18 months because he was a climber.

Jinty64 · 21/11/2013 17:49

Mine slept in their cots until around their 4th birthdays. Never had any problems. Do what suits you.

arethereanyleftatall · 21/11/2013 17:51

You do whatever works for you, but....
IMO you are missing out on lots of stuff, cuddles in bed, reading stories together in bed, what about when she's poorly - do you have to poke your hand through to stroke her head? What does she say when she's,round her friends houses playing in their bedrooms? I find it a but odd tbh.

DoctorRobert · 21/11/2013 19:27

she's 2, only just started pre school, so doesn't really have friends like that to play in the bedrooms of. something else to feel I'm doing wrong

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curiousgeorgie · 21/11/2013 19:31

My DD has hypermobility and wasn't even thinking of climbing out of her cot, so we left her in it.

She'd still be in it now if we hasn't moved house when she turned 3 (3 months ago) and DH and my stepfather accidentally snapped one of the sides!

She still finds it difficult to climb in and out of bed but I had no choice

TokenGirl1 · 21/11/2013 22:31

My dd was reaching her fourth birthday before we put her in her toddler bed. This was mainly because we couldn't fit a bed in our room so we had to wait until we moved house.

Ds is 3.7 and is still in his cot bed. I asked him yesterday if he wanted a big boys bed and he initially said yes but at bedtime he said he'd changed his mind and wants to keep his cot.

Neither of my two have ever tried to climb out thankfully.

OvaryAction · 21/11/2013 22:35

My DD is nearly three and still co sleeps with me. If everyone's happy with the situation and it's safe then don't let what other people think about it bother you.

goldenlula · 21/11/2013 22:52

Ds1 was 2.5 months, ds2 was 2.9 months and both left the cot due to impending arrival of the next baby. Dd is our last, she is 2.6 and still in her cot. After Christmas we are getting the boys bunk beds and then ds2's bed will be hers so will move her then as we will have no room to store the bed. So YANBU.

Ledkr · 21/11/2013 22:59

I'm glad you started this thread.
Dd is the same age as yours and is still in her lovely cosy vit too.
After two years of crap sleep I'm actually scared to move her now she sleeps so well. Shelves her cot too and sleeps really well.
I thought it was my guilty secret.

Ledkr · 21/11/2013 23:00

Cot not vit!

arethereanyleftatall · 21/11/2013 23:17

I'm intrigued by this thread, as all the children I know personally are in to their toddler beds by 2 latest.
I don't think.it's right to treat children like babies.

DoctorRobert · 21/11/2013 23:20

That's the thing Ledkr - DD didn't sleep through until she was 15mo, so I don't want to disturb a good thing unless I have to!

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DoctorRobert · 21/11/2013 23:25

I'm intrigued by this thread, as all the children I know personally are in to their toddler beds by 2 latest.
I don't think.it's right to treat children like babies.

She's only 2

I guess I'm the opposite - I don't think it's right to rush through babyhood.

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highlandbird · 21/11/2013 23:37

DS1is 2.8 and is still in his cot as well, we have a toddler bed ready to put up but he loves his cot, and sleeps so well in there, and still plenty of room. If he hasn't asked to move to a bed by 3 we will probably suggest it to him then.

I am also in no rush for him to grow up too quickly, and happy for him to set the pace. He has his whole life ahead of him to be 'grown up' I don't see why it makes a difference if they are in a bed by a certain age??

hallowisitmeyourelookingfor · 21/11/2013 23:50

DD1 went into a double bed at 18m, living circumstances meant she had the only real bed in our flat! DD2 was in the cot until we moved house the day before her 3rd birthday. We had no space for a bed for her until we moved, otherwise we would have moved her before then.
DS is 2 and we will be putting him into a bed in the new year. He's got about 6 inches at the bottom of his cot when he's stretched out. He doesn't wake up in the night, so have never had to stroke him through his cot bars or anything like that. I'm dreading moving him as he's a bundle of energy and i'm forseeing nights of trudging backwards and forwards tucking him back in, but think he will start to climb out soon so we need to.
Just do what suits you, it's not doing her any harm :)

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