I'm getting so super fucked off with step MIL... WIBU to say something?

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FIL has a long term girlfriend. They moved in together in April, sold his house and bought a new one in September. Prior to this they'd been together about four years. I get on fine with her, she's a but much sometimes and a total JP, but I smile and nod my way through the drama.

FIL has two lovely cats, 10 years old. She knew the cats well before moving in, was living with them from April. They went into a cattery for five weeks whilst they moved and had some building work done. Then they asked us to look after them for four weeks as they were stressed and loosing weight in the cattery. Fine. That was beginning of October, and the return date has now been pushed back to 7th December.

Since the day we agreed to have them, she's been angling for us to keep them. Comments like, oh you'll love them really, you'll want them to stay, you won't be able to see them go etc etc. DH rang his dad last week to organise returning them, and his dad said that we "had" to have them until at least after Christmas as stepMIL is recovering from an op. DH quite sharply said that we were returning them on 7th, end of.

So now stepMIL is drama-ing it up on Facebook. She posts endless quizzes, pictures, slogans etc about how much she loves dogs, dogs are mans best friends, she is 100% a dog person, can't understand why someone would ever want cats etc, yesterday it was five status updates on the merits of dogs over cats and how she doesn't really like cats, it's been a further two this morning. This is REALLY FUCKING ME OFF. I feel like we're doing them a bloody big favour, haven't had a thank you, instead we're getting a load of PA crap on Facebook. I know that FIL has probably put his foot down and said the cats are coming back and she's acting out in this way on Facebook, she does it a lot for various issues. Stupidly, although the cats of course can't read, I feel really sorry for them! They are lovely affectionate boys and she's bitching about how much she hates them. I really want to say something to her, world war 3 will commence but at least I'll feel less fucked off. WIBU to do so?

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Sorry that's not very helpful. She's being very unreasonable and as you say you should be getting thanks, not PA comments.

Could you return them to the cattery and get them to bill your FIL?

Choose a date which is the longest your willing to have them and without any argument sent a firm message saying cats have to be back by x date then pack them up and ship them back!

Can't see why you can't have cats around when your poorly.

Other than that it's between them if they want to argue over them, it's not your lookout.

She would have no compunction in leaving them there weeks, possibly months! And they hated it, they were stressed thin and scurfy when they came here. So wouldn't want to do that.

She sounds like a cockhole. Tell her that if she doesnt want them then she should bloody well rehome them herself. Poor kitties.

They are DEF doing back on the 7th. Just feel pissed off her with her constant carping on Facebook.

If she finds the cats too much there's no way she'd cope with a dog. Send the cats back asap and perhaps get her a cats protection league adoption kit for Christmas

I would block her from my fb for the moment and let her get on with venting.
Return them a planned and refuse to move the date.
You can't read the comments so it won't wind you up further and she still gets to bitch.

I'd be more worried about her mis-treating the cats when they return, would she be cruel to the cats OP?

Just return the cats. She is being ridiculous but it is your FILs problem to sort out, they are his cats.

It's your dad's place to say something, not yours as the cats are going back anyway.

I can understand how upset you are though as I'd be just the same.

I would print screen her comments send them to fil saying you are now uncomfatable about returning them and will be them to cat procetation I would also mention about hope u not getting a dog and they are more work

But thats me I wouldnt care about fallout

All you have to do is return the cats on Dec 7th and ignore absolutely everything else.

This is your FILs problem, not yours. If she generates drama it can only work if you react and take part. Why escalate it by responding? Just ignore.

You could counter with multiple posts about how much you hate people who try to control their partners and who won't accept them for who they are.

Don't argue, just return them, I'd do so before the 7th Dec personally as I think the longer you leave it the worse it will get.

Fight fire with fire. Fill up your facebook with photos of the cats with signs that say "We Miss You Mummy" and "X days till I go home".

Tell her after reading all her convincing fb updates you've decided you might get a dog so obviously you'll need to return the cats ASAP :)

pianodoodle is a genius!!!

Oh yes do what Zachary said!

Ha! Say what Pianodoodle said! Brilliant

Wow. How of juvenile of your stepMIL. Quite pathetic.

blu spot on. You can only have a tug of war if both people are pulling, in other words don't respond to her provocation and just return the cats on the date you said.

Block or defriend her.

You're returning the cats when you agreed to. End of story. No need to get involved in or respond to her childish behaviour. She should be embarrassed.

Just give the cats back. She'll have to get used to them. And if she doesn't, don't worry. It's not your problem.

Could you keep the cats?
She sounds like a heartless wanker.
Would you be able to trust that she wouldn't harm them?