I am really angry and KNOW IANBU!!!!!!

[mameulah]

Our pfb ds is almost one. My dh has worked EVERYDAY (apart from about seven) since he was born. I know and am appreciative of his hard work. However, he took last Sunday afternoon off to do his hobby stuff and at least some of today.

I am FURIOUS about it and feel utterly humiliated. He has made a fool of me. I have tried so hard to persuade him to come home at even 3 o'clock on a Saturday afternoon so we could have a bit more time together and it has never happened.

As angry as I am I know my husband isn't mean. He has not been brought up with a cosy family and this is his first experience of family life. He is definitely old enough to know better.

Once this feud has blown over what can I say to him to make him understand how utterly disappointing his choice has been?

tia

I can see why he needed a break. He works damn hard and you begrudge this- I don't understand it. Yes you might feel fed up being stuck at home with a child but this thread is not about you needing a break, it is about him choosing to do his hobby in the few free hours he has. You are disappointed in his choice you say, sounding like his mother, maybe he is too.

What freaking planet is this?

I can't believe people think it's reasonable to only spend 7 days in an entire year with your wife and new child.

And if it really is necessary for survival, then surely you are not in a position to take off time to do your hobby.

If he gets so little free time, he doesn't have time for a hobby. His young child comes first. I wonder why he had a child actually, if he knew he would not be able to spend time with it. Or, indeed, why he has a partner that he cannot spend time with.

However, OP seems to have disappeared as so often happens on these threads. Just needed a rant, I expect, not actually intending to change anything.

Am back.

I think I half agree with almost everyone. And totally agree with everyone who agrees with me.

It is extra hard because this has gone on for more than four years. He has his own business. And thankfully he is not a farmer. there is nothing wrong with farmers, I am just not good with animals.

And I do appreciate the feedback.

Have to say I dont really understand why you posted op.
Was it to rant?
You say you appreciate the feedback. Fair enough, but you are not going to actually change anything in your life are you? which is the exact reason why your dh is doing exactly what he wants. Because he has no reason to You will carry on the same and so will he. So it must all suit you in some way.