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AIBU to be concerned that my son has turned me into a big cry baby?

32 replies

DoJo · 16/11/2013 22:24

Before I had my son, I was pretty normal in terms of my control of my emotions. Every so often I would have a cry about something relatively serious, but I think I was generally at the 'doesn't cry much' end of the emotional spectrum. I do remember laughing at my mum when I was a teenager because she cried at something that happened in the Archers, and even managed to shed a tear when she caught the end of an episode of Neighbours despite never having watched it before.

Since having my son, however, I am a massive teary-eyed wuss! I didn't actually cry when he was born, but about three days later I wept at how perfect he was and seem to have barely stopped since! My mum bought him the 'How much do I love you?' book, and although my head finds it a bit odd and cringey (weird 'who loves who most' one-upmanship between nut brown hares? Confused), the first time I read it I was in floods by the middle. I found myself tearing up at a radio 4 drama a couple of weeks ago, and can be set off by the weirdest things - I came close to crying at a wedding a while ago which is TOTALLY not me (or at least the me I was until 18 months ago).

So, will this ever stop? Will I ever manage to get back to the sensible person who was in touch with their emotions, but also in control, or will I forever more threaten to be besieged by waterworks over things like the fact that I used to kiss my son through the bannisters in our old house but can't reach in our new one? (Yes - it is truly this which has inspired this thread, despite the fact that the only reason I can't reach is because there are boxes on front of them and I will be able to do it again in a couple of weeks when everything is sorted!).

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PollyIndia · 16/11/2013 22:26

I am the same. I want to hate the john Lewis Christmas ad as it is so cheesy, but I can't help crying at it. Having a baby has unlocked this weird well of sentimentality in me. I cry every time I read the guess how much I love you book. And I have cried at in the night garden. Ridiculous.

PerpendicularVince · 16/11/2013 22:29

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TheGinLushMinion · 16/11/2013 22:30

Ugh, pregnancy does weird things to you-I cried at DD meeting Mickey fucking mouse ffs.

Had a good blub at CIN last night too...

forgetmenots · 16/11/2013 22:32

YANBU I'm the same. A red-eyed, snotty mess :)

ClaireandGeorge · 16/11/2013 22:37

ds is 2 and I still cry at everything. Wasn't really a cryer before and used toHmm at those that were. I cried at strictly tonight fgs.

feebeecat · 16/11/2013 22:39

Yup, 8 years of blarting at pretty much everything. Can't watch the news anymore, listening to it on the radio is pushing it, a lot of TV has been banned (DIY SOS anyone??), in fact dh decided I'd best stick with cbeebies, much to dts despair - but even that has its moments!
Think I'm doing well if I can make it through any given day - just how did they does this to me??
Oddly had exact same conversation with cousin a few weeks ago, she couldn't figure it out either Confused

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 16/11/2013 22:40

I was at the gym today, watching tv on the inbuilt screen on the treadmill when the Sainsburys Christmas advert came on... Cue me jogging along with tears streaming down my face, feeling very embarrassed and getting some very funny looks.

Kewcumber · 16/11/2013 22:40

So, will this ever stop?

Nope sorry - it was a big shock to me too (accountant/finance director).

I have learnt to cover it up but no never quite got back to normal (or at least not yet with an 8 year old... teen years may cure me)

IronOrchid · 16/11/2013 22:41

Motherhood makes your brains dribble out the side of your head. You are now officially an idiot. Enjoy.

Kewcumber · 16/11/2013 22:41

Still cannot read "How much do I love you" to the end.

RegainingUnconsciousness · 16/11/2013 22:41

I've always been a cry baby. But DS is 2.5 and I well up at random things like marching bands and truckers waving back at him. I'm ridiculous.

MavisKorvarian · 16/11/2013 22:46

7 years in and the formally hard-as-nails-Mavis will
cry at literally everything. Grin

I really wish I didn't - I teach little primary children and its so hard not to cry when they 'get' something I'm teaching them.

RegainingUnconsciousness · 16/11/2013 22:49

Oh yes Mavis, I teach teenagers and with their roller coaster lives I'm welling up with pride one moment and sympathy the next. I tell them to expect floods on results day. (It's only fair they're warned!)

SanityClause · 16/11/2013 22:49

Don't get conned into reading the Harry Potter books out loud, is all I can say.

DeepThought · 16/11/2013 22:50

I've got older-than-age-10 dcs and still can't think about the big buggering mirror with the sodding rainbow bloody rim without getting a flipping lump in my blasted throat #peepo

BankWadger · 16/11/2013 22:53

Since having children the things I've found myself crying is truly disturbing!

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 16/11/2013 22:55

I welled up today when reading miffy and the new baby when she says grandma would have been proud and I realised that grandma had died a few books before and would be ever know the new baby
Blush

Allegrogirl · 16/11/2013 22:59

Six years in and I'm pathetic. I used to pride myself on my ability to sit stoney faced through Disney films and rom-coms.

The time this happened was in Mothercare at about 4 months pregnant. I was looking at a really tacky and baby book thinking how pathetic it was when I had to walk out as I was in uncontrollable floods of tears.

DD1 was off with a tummy bug last week and we watched Mamma Mia followed by Wall-E. I was a mess by the time I dropped her at the GPs at lunch time so I could head to work. Snot and tears all the way to work.

Saw about 30 minutes of Children in Need (before DD got bored) and again tears pouring down my cheeks.

pigsDOfly · 16/11/2013 23:05

I also found I couldn't watch the news or films containing any violence.
And don't get me started on anything to do with animals.

It does stop eventually OP. Can't remember when exactly it stopped but my 3 children are now 26, 29 and 33 and I can honestly say I no longer have this problem :)

feebeecat · 16/11/2013 23:08

PigsDOfly so there is some hope then??

pigsDOfly · 16/11/2013 23:10

Oh yes. Hard as nails now.

LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot · 16/11/2013 23:14

DD is 6 and im still the same over emotional cow from the day she was born, that Tesco ad starts me off.

feebeecat · 16/11/2013 23:15

Phew, only another 20 or so years to go then Grin

DoJo · 16/11/2013 23:16

Ok, well this has been enlightening so far. On the one hand, I have never cried at In the Night Garden, which is good, but on the other hand, my son is only 20 months old, so it looks like I might have another 25 years of crying before I can just switch on the radio without having to check I've got tissues on hand. Perhaps I should just buy shares in Kleenex and plan my retirement on the back of all the weepy folk on here...

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pigsDOfly · 16/11/2013 23:26

You do have to remember though that once your children are grown up you might then have grandchildren and then you get to the sentimental old lady stage.

Might as well just give up now and buy those Kleenex shares (I don't have grandchildren).

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