No, I don't want XYZ - AIBU to think this is an unambiguous statement?

[PacificDogwood]

Well, am I?

DH want to buy something totally unnecessary but expensive.
I don't want it.
We can 'afford' it if affording means the monthly payments.
We have totally shared finances, we both work, I would not stand in his way if this rocks his world, BUT he keeps asking me to approve.

I am disapproving of this purchase, I don't want it, I do think it's a waste of money we could spend on other luxuries (first world problem, I know). How much clearer can I make it??

Aaaaargh!!

So, I am clear or not??
Over to the MN Jury

You are clear but he wants to apease his concionce by you saying yes dear go for it, it's a great purchase.

Sounds like he needs to deliberate this him self and decide if he is with you on this or willing to make an indipendant decision.

What is it by the way, it may be easier if we know what it it's, it's benefits and the pitfalls of the purchase.

Bet it's a mahoooosive telly!

You need to tell us what it is, P-Doggy!

It's not a TV, big or otherwise.
And not a car, fancy or otherwise.

It's a fecking boat.
We had a boat from this spring.
It sank (v long story, short).

Insurance is paying out, I'm glad to see the back of the damn thing.
So, now we "need" another boat .

Woof!!

Oooh, we're looking for a boat at the moment!

Just say no

Is it lingerie?

Oh, x post

Knid, do you know what B.O.A.T. stands for??

I've said 'no'. He sez 'yes'. Or at the very least 'want to'. Manchild.

Monthly payments for lingerie, Amanda ??
What do you wear?
Knickers spun from fairy dust??

XH and I used to have a saying, "How you gonna cook it?" (From the Monty Python sketch. "What did you buy?" "Piston engine." "How you gonna cook it?") It was, as I'm sure you immediately realise, shorthand for "that may be nice to have but honestly, can you really justify the cost, given how much we're actually likely to use it?"

Oh, I might have to look that sketch out and play it to him - hadn't thought of that one, thanks!

Good luck, hope it does the trick!

(It won't, if he really has his heart set on a ruddy boat.)

Right up until I read "Boat" he stood a chance,
Boat= Nope.
He had a boat, it did what boats do, No more boats.

What does boat stand for?

We're looking for a boat to live on, part-time. That's probably even more mad.

Don't know. In 24 years we've both worked full-time, we decided who would pay for which household expenses out of their own account but have always had separate bank accounts. I don't actually know how much he earns and he doesn't know what I earn, other than it'll be roughly the same. I might earn a bit more now. As long as bills are paid, which they always are, what we buy with our own money is up to us.

The one thing I wouldn't like with this dilemma is the huge TV. I think they're horrible.

Oh sorry, it's a boat, that's fine. But he should buy it from his own money.

Judy, v good point, well made.
Again, I may use that.

BOAT = Break Out Another Thousand

We have a Canadian Canoe which I love - it's great.
The Boat That Sunk was a speed boat - so bloody noisy, expensive, needs looking after and upkeep and servicing and new batteries, LPG run engines can freeze (who knew??), leaving you and DCs stranded in the middle of a rather large body of water etc etc.

It's the noise I dislike the most (apart from the cost and how demanding the darn thing is) - boating should be quiet and serene and calm IMO.

DH also like motorsport - need I say more?

A speed boat? In that case, YANBU. Too noisy.

I would love to live on a boat.
Without DH
And without DCs

Where would you be keeping yours, Knid?

Spookily, XH lives on a boat nowadays. Not ever wanting to go near him has so far won out over the temptation to sneak over there with a gimlet.

You could have a mini cruise (of the boat kind )
Then you could have the luxury of a proper cabin and decent food,
and he can go hang round the Captain and maybe get a go at standing on the bridge and twiddling something nautical.

Every time he so much as looks at you, just say 'No' and shake your head - eventually it will sink (he he he he he) in.

[facepalm] No

Like that?