Shitting mother, shitting Christmas

[LucilleBluth]

Mother is behaving like a brat because I have asked them to come on Boxing Day instead of Christmas Eve.

December is going to be mad, 3 DCs, one at pre school, one at primary and one at secondary makes for a shit load of Christmas fayres, performances, Carole services etc etc....not to mention pantos, in law visits, mine and DDs birthdays and DH overseeing a massive project at work and not finishing until the 23rd. I am doing a degree and have a major essay due in on the 10th Jan.

I just want Christmas Eve and day to relax by ourselves, we have been invited to SILs but I have even turned that down. I have just had a conversation with her, I bungled everything I wanted to say and she ended up sounding like a sulking teenager.......and let's not mention the fact that dad is a massive miserable grinch of a man.

What do I do, I feel awful.

"well what will I do for my Christmas dinner?"

I'm astonished. Perhaps given they like a drink, book into a local pub for their meal on Christmas day? Or dare I say cook for themselves? Incredibly cheeky to expect to be entertained every Christmas, and always on their terms, in someone else's home.

Good on you OP for trying to explain calmly, I think after the response that got I wouldn't be inclined to want them to come either. DM has backed herself into a corner now, it's doubtful she will get the Christmas she wants, and has now spoiled any chance of a nice post-Christmas visit to see the DGC. Looks like you've just got extra time to do your essay!

"well what will I do for my Christmas dinner?"

"well mother, you could always try eating some food"

' well what will I do for my Christmas dinner'.

Cook or book a meal out??

Has she never cooked a Christmas dinner?

I would probably feel sad if I wasn't invited to spend Xmas with my only DC and GDC but hope I would have the self respect to hide my disappointment and accept the invitation to come up on Boxing Day with good grace.

Sorry, posted too soon. Meant to say also that I thought the OP was NBU. She is perfectly entitled to not spend every Xmas hosting for her parents and her mother is BU to be difficult about it.

Hells made me laugh, might get dh to try that with my estranged mil.

But at least OPs mum won't be alone.

My Dad might be!

Sibling has once again ducked out & I really would rather bew with my husband & teens!