Quick - cast your vote please! (DH related)

[TeeManyMartoonis]

Today is our wedding anniversary. Last year he got me nothing, not even a card (we had only been married 2 years - he said he thought that he 'would have stooped by then').

I got very upset and he has said since he realises it is a bigger deal to me to be demonstrative. He has had to work tonight, but I got home about an hour ago to find a really shitty card (you know - the really cheapy garage type ones) just left on the side.

So:

A) I am being a spoilt brat, I got what I wanted and I should stop whining

B) That's a bit shit.

TIA!

DH hates Valentines day. I know he does because he tells me so every year!

And every year (we've been together 6 years, married for 1) I brace myself for this being the year i get nothing.

However, so far, every year a big bunch of flowers has been delivered to the house on the day, and a big card has been handed over in the evening with a lovely kiss Bless him

Anniversaries are a bit different. They're not a commercial invention. I think if DH knows it matters to you then he should get his bum down the shop and get you a decent card. It's not rocket science! You're not expecting him to go out and miraculously choose your dream handbag and shoes.

A bit of both. Your DH wants to please, he just needs to be nudged towards it (e.g. talk go him about it the week before and arrange a meal out/gift expectations, etc.).

If it's any help my DH can be similar. He does not see the point of cards, presents are generally pre-vetted with me and posh restaurants drive him barmy. But then I get little acts of kindness each day and cuddles in the evening.

Do you have any close female relatives who can "advise" without causing offence?

So - UPDATED:

He phone don his way home from work. He said I sounded upset and so I said that I thought the card was a bit shit, to be honest. He was very apologetic and said that he had forgotten and had gone to our local shop. When he arrived home he had a large box of thorntons (meh) as an apology.
I am upset, given the past and that he knew how much it meant to me. But it just seems as brain block for him.

I am just going to have to live with it, I am much better about it than I was and there doesn't seem much point in being upset.

Thanks everyone xx

Aw well Christmas is coming so make sure he doesn't disappoint you then.

B! I fully believe in a card, small present and dinner (if you can get out). My hubby would be in trouble if he forgot... as would I with him!