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A man just held a door open for me

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mrswarbouys · 13/11/2013 17:14

to a department store and I thanked him. A woman behind me gave me a dirty look, tut-tutted, exhaled really loudly and deliberately shut the inner door on my nose - practically. I'm upset. Sorry if this is tired discussion but what did I do that was so wrong?

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VerySmallSqueak · 13/11/2013 18:02

If this is a 'have I let the sisterhood down?' sort of a question,the answer is 'No.'

Relax.Move on.

VerySmallSqueak · 13/11/2013 18:03

Or did you accidentally let the outer door close on the other woman after the door was opened for you?

LondonNinja · 13/11/2013 18:04

This all just shows she's a twat and you're nice.

Have a nice Wine and relax.

WorraLiberty · 13/11/2013 18:04

I held the door open for a guy carrying some boxes the other day.

He gave me a beaming smile and I don't know what he said (English not his first language) but I swear to god it sounded like, "Thank you my lovely cunt" [shocked]

I'm quite sure that wasn't what he said, but it certainly sounded like it!

edamsavestheday · 13/11/2013 18:07

Bizarre. Don't let the daft mare upset you!

Tee2072 · 13/11/2013 18:08

Grin Worra

complexnumber · 13/11/2013 18:14

He gave me a beaming smile and I don't know what he said (English not his first language) but I swear to god it sounded like, "Thank you my lovely cunt" [shocked]

Fantastic!

I'm going to try to drop that one in the next time I hold a door open for anyone.

LondonNinja · 13/11/2013 18:16

Love it, Worra.

NewtRipley · 13/11/2013 18:17

No, I mean I don't believe people can be so grumpy!

NewtRipley · 13/11/2013 18:18

I think this was a tired discussion in 1983

NewtRipley · 13/11/2013 18:23

Sorry. That was rude of me Blush

I just can't see that you did anything wrong but nor can I see why you'd assume this was anything to do with sexism etc. You might have just encountered someone who was in a hurry and was unreasonably grumpy for some reason that was nothing to do with you.

MrsLouisTheroux · 13/11/2013 19:40

She was rude.

AthelstaneTheUnreadyFucker · 13/11/2013 20:10

A young man opened a door for me yesterday; I was very grateful as I was carrying an extremely heavy box at the time. Which of us was wrongest...

Your lady was an arse, regardless of doorholder/doorholdee gender.

limitedperiodonly · 13/11/2013 20:20

I was in Peter Jones today

Joiningthegang · 13/11/2013 20:27

There isn't a Peter jones in cambridge

overmydeadbody · 13/11/2013 20:35

It can't have been in Cambridge because there isn't a Peter Jones there, and the people in Cambridge are all lovely. Fact.

OrlandoWoolf · 13/11/2013 20:37

Where did Cambridge come from?

I thought Peter Jones was off Dragon's Den.

Confused.

gaelicsheep · 13/11/2013 20:37

Only very recently have I finally learned to view other people's rudeness as their problem not mine. And it has been a revelation to me. So many people, like that woman, are really really rude, and I thought it was all about me - seriously.

limitedperiodonly · 13/11/2013 20:42

I know two people in Cambridge who are vile.

If anyone local feels like a little harassment campaign feel free to PM me for their address. Trust me, they deserve it.

Tee2072 · 13/11/2013 20:52

Someone asked if it had happened in Cambridge. That's where Cambridge came from.

The OP said nothing about Cambridge.

OrlandoWoolf · 13/11/2013 20:55

I quite like Cambridge. I worked at one place which is actually quite famous but then left it major career fuckup

tethersend · 13/11/2013 20:57

Oh, right Cambridge is Robert Sayle... Peter Jones is on the Kings Road, isn't it?

In which case, it must've been heaving with cunts. Count yourself lucky you only encountered one.

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mrswarbouys · 14/11/2013 08:19

WorraLiberty what I meant by 'tired discussion' is that the more regular than I MNers may have had the 'do you like men opening doors for you?' discussion many times? If so - sorry to drag it up again. ... Also I'm not an infant as someone suggested and neither am I in bits emotionally over it. I just thought it a bit upsetting at the time that she was disapproving of this happening. Perhaps though she was just a stroppy cow having a terrible day and was pissed off with me for not stomping around as quickly as she was..

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missinglalaland · 14/11/2013 08:25

The man was polite. The woman was deranged.

I hold doors open for people if they are coming right behind me. I will wait a long time if they are elderly or pushing a pram.

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mrswarbouys · 14/11/2013 08:46

Yes me too. Don't get how anyone could have a problem with it. I'm such a coward, i should have confronted her and asked what the problem was.

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