I wish people did judge so much on looks, but they do, so I've just decided to accept it

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Only had a baby a month ago, people keep telling me how great I look

But I've been making an extra effort so I look together you know doing my hair, bit of mascara, niceISH clothes

I think if I feel abit vunerable I will make myself look better as a way of defence if that makes any sense

But after many years of feeling annoyed how people, say stranges that don't know you, treat you better when you look good

I'm now just going to accept it and try not to be so lazy and make more of an effort

I spent the first few weeks of my baby's life ensuring I showered and put make up on so people didn't think I couldn't cope.

Now I'm more confident in my skillz as a mother I'm back to being a scrote.

I'm still in my pyjamas :)

They don't call it your warpaint for nothing

A woman choosing to not wear make up etc does not = lazy.

But yes, that is how society judges women. You are right.

Society judges, but it's up to you at the end of the day to choose whether it affects you or not.

I used to find time to paint my face everyday but nowadays I feel more comfortable with myself and barely ever wear it. I do feel better with it on but don't like my dd to see me making it a priority.

How nice for you. Here's a medal:

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Yes I can see why it's called warpaint

I'm certainly not saying I'm amazing
Just saying I'm probably feeling vunerable ATM so feel the need to look more together, and together by what others think of as looking together

And that after years of feeling annoyed about how I'm judged in looks
I'm finally ended up accepting that's just how it is

Jen that's probably what will happen wth me

I have never given two shits what society thinks of me.

Other than those who wear masses of caked on make up and look a bit weird freaky imo, I don't think I have ever noticed whether someone is wearing make up.

Make up helps. If you are attractive anyways, you can pull off being make up free. But if you're ugly, you're ugly to the bone.

So what you're saying is, you're good looking AND making the most of your looks? Society judges women who do not make an effort, not those who are plain/ugly. That's what I make of your op anyway.

It's ok to look a bit crazy when you have a baby, so do as you wish, put the warpaint on if you wish and further down the line if you feel like not giving a shit, give that a go too.

I agree though, while it might not be right that people judge you on your looks, the fact is they do.

Life can be made easier if you are aware of that and use it to your advantage.

I look better with make up, I know this, I don't wear it because I am lazy. I just can't be arsed with it.

I look better with a bag on my head but I don't care.

itscockyfoxagain me too. I've better things to do, such as staying in bed longer, than put on makeup every day. I don't care who thinks what of me, not now or when I had two little little kids (now 9 and 2 and I still can't be arsed to make an effort ) Take me as you find me and all that...

Molly you are right that is what I mean

My mil, all I can go by is my experiences and when I look good people are nicer to me
Smile at me more open doors, chat to me more are genrally friendlier

When I go out with stuffy hair, scruffy clothes etc
People are simply not as nice

Not saying iis the way it should be
But I've finally accepted that even though I don't think it's right to judge people on looks
But it's simply the way it is
For most not all

May be you project a more friendly exterior when you feel good?

I look like a bag of crap and people talk to me all the time.

I'm a bit of a scruff and don't wear make up I do think people judge you for it, but funnily enough some of the nicest least judgy people have been women who have obviously taken a lot of care over their make up, nice clothes, accessorized Etc.

I look scruffy 99% of the time and people are always nice to me.

Maybe it's you?

Shame you didn't make more of an effort with your thread title but I am sure you look lovely!

Lol sorry but im breastfeeding while typing with my left hand

and no I dont think im amaxing for thst either ;-)

Whatever makes you feel better, Any.

But, what happens when baby's teething/ill/you're up through the night for one reason or another - will troweling on the war paint be your priority?

I know exactly what you are saying, OP - if you can't beat them, join them!

People definitely react more positively to good-looking /attractive people. Apparently, our preference for beauty is biological - hardwired into us - so we might as well accept it.

why are people being snippy to someone who's admitted to feeling vulnerable?

OP - I for the first month after my baby I barely managed to clean my teeth so I'm impressed that you're managing this especially when you're feeling a bit vulnerable.

I think your thread title was a bit confusing and you missed a word out so it didn't really make sense