I wish people did judge so much on looks, but they do, so I've just decided to accept it

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Only had a baby a month ago, people keep telling me how great I look

But I've been making an extra effort so I look together you know doing my hair, bit of mascara, niceISH clothes

I think if I feel abit vunerable I will make myself look better as a way of defence if that makes any sense

But after many years of feeling annoyed how people, say stranges that don't know you, treat you better when you look good

I'm now just going to accept it and try not to be so lazy and make more of an effort

How annoying. You should tell them how intelligent you are. Do you have a degree you can talk about?

Im stunning too and get a lot of unwanted attention. Ugly people don't realise what a burden being beautiful can be.

Op, YANBU. As for the rest of you - people may be "polite" - but they will judge you as less than worthy. Suck it up and keep telling yourselves it doesn't matter.

Ps I was always made up and looking great and ready to go by 9am when I hadn't babies. Always figured it was sheer laziness not to be - I mean it's only looking after a baby - not administering trench medicine.

Argh HAD babies, bit hadn't!

I know exactly what you are saying, OP - if you can't beat them, join them!

People definitely react more positively to good-looking /attractive people. Apparently, our preference for beauty is biological - hardwired into us - so we might as well accept it.

You care about what random strangers think about you?

I don't. It's great!

Sorry, accidentally posted twice.

I also felt I had something to prove. Had to get my figure back, had to have make up on and go out day after the birth, had to look as though nothing had changed she my fanny wasn't now baggy.

1 year in I don't give a shit and people also don't give a shit now the novelty has worn off. Although the odd bloke does like to tell me I am not fat, which is nice v

Why are people being snappy to a mum who's just had a baby, who says she's already feeling vulnerable.

Whatever makes a woman feel good, being made up or not, is fine.

Hahahaha the people who would judge me as less worthy are really not my sort of people so I really couldn't give a shiny shit about them.

elskovs, are you Samantha Brick?

I don't find any difference as to how people react to me whether I'm wearing it or not, but I am someone who looks a lot better with just a little bit of makeup (tinted moisturiser, blush and mascara). So I suppose I judge myself as to how I look.
Since starting maternity leave I definitely don't wear it as much as I did when I was working, but when I have the baby if I need a boost I think I will put some on if going out.

People may judge whether someone is pretty or not based on looks. I don't believe I judge whether someone is kind or interesting or funny or a good parent based on looks.

For those that don't care what others think of them, wow you're very privileged. I have to care, as other people have decided whether to hire me, promote me,give me a project that could lead to promotion, rent me a house, etc.

On the other hand, while I try to dress very well and professionally, I've stopped wearing makeup because I think makeup makes me look younger and less serious. I am going for a mature, capable and competent look rather than "pretty" because I'm not independently wealthy, I work in a conservative male-dominated field, and I'm the main earner for my family.

Not privileged... just too old to care.

Ah yes, but the workplace is different.

This young woman has just had a baby, she is at home, and feels she still needs to look attractive- that is hard - it's a shame women feel that pressure.

And that, you the cat :)